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Laurence Fishburne at Heaven, taken on my cell:

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Something I left in Austin that I miss dearly :(:

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When are you going to be in NYC, Chip?

_Emerson
 
Maybe you should learn how to fight. I grew up in a part of the country were it's still okay, and quite accepted to just throwdown and fight if there's a problem, so you have to know how to protect yourself. Unfortunatly, I didn't have my daddy around to teach me how to do so, so I've taken my knocks, but I like to think of it as a lesson on what not to do if I'm ever in real trouble again. Kinda like in "A Boy Named Sue". A working knowledge of how to hurt another man is always useful when walking alone at night in the big city. I'm a pretty big guy, so most people don't mess with me, but I like to think if they ever did, it would have to be a pretty bad dude to get the best of me. But then again, I'm just a good Southern boy trying to make it in this crazy fast paced modern world, who's old Southern thinking may not have a place into today's mindset. Maybe I'm just too butch for my own good.
 
scem0 said:
Something I left in Austin that I miss dearly :(:

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I miss my Chewey dearly too. You will have to do a search here on MR to see our sad tale.


When are you going to be in NYC, Chip?

_Emerson
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Hopefully over the next few weeks. It will be a last minute trip I think. At $40 round trip, you might be able to see a different part of the East Coast. Who knows I might take you to your first totally nude strip bar. \\

When I come up it will be on an over night Chinatown bus, or the first China town bus in the morning, with the latest possible return trip. It looks like less than 24 hours up there, in any case.

I am saving my time off for Lee to show me why I might move to Chicago.

And before Lee panics, it would not just because of him being there. :)

Though that might be reason enough. :D
 
This is (was) my Chewey. This is not the best shot of him. It was taken within a week after him being homeless in Florida with my ex.

There is not a day that goes by (honestly) that I don't think and worry about my "boy", Chewey. I made a promise to the rescue As an as that found Chewey a new home, that I would volunteer my time. I kept that promise a couple weeks ago.

It was after that day, that I can understand the feelings you have being away from your friend. The two "pups" that I was placed with for the day, could not hold candle to love that Chewey gave me. But my heart was broken that these step sisters could have a hard time finding a home together.

As an aside. I am heartened that we are now realizing that our pets deserve a place in evacuation plans after the reality of Katrina.
 

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Chip NoVaMac said:
But I sometimes feel that is a chicken and the egg argument. Promiscuity is just as rampant in the Straight community. Because Straights have so many venues (bars, grocery stores, gas stations, retail stores) to hit on the right guy or gal; I think the promiscuity factor is undervalued for Straights.

Gays on the other hand, because of fear and prejudice, limit themselves to bars, online, and public spaces. And that gives the community as a whole a bad image.

Having come out in the late 70's; I have seen a gradual shift in how we meet for relationships. And now that Gay marriage is a national topic, we have those that are settling down with the hopes of SOCTUS doing the right thing.
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You really need to come visit San Francisco then Chip, the entire city is gay and there are multiple, multiple venues for meeting other gay men. For one thing there are much higher numbers of the usual places, clubs, online communities, etc. There are also all the other alternatives, restaurants, museums, art exhibits, music events with gay themes, hookups can even be found amongst the movers and shakers in the financial and banking district.

The only other outright gay community that I have seen that even compares to San Francisco is West Hollywood in Los Angeles, where whole neighborhoods are gay, coffee shops, gyms, restaurants and many other types of businesses, where nobody would look at you twice or even care if you are gay.

Not sure how it is done in Herndon, VA., but out here in parts of California it is the "Gay Mecca". :D
 
highres said:
You really need to come visit San Francisco then Chip, the entire city is gay and there are multiple, multiple venues for meeting other gay men. For one thing there are much higher numbers of the usual places, clubs, online communities, etc. There are also all the other alternatives, restaurants, museums, art exhibits, music events with gay themes, hookups can even be found amongst the movers and shakers in the financial and banking district.

The only other outright gay community that I have seen that even compares to San Francisco is West Hollywood in Los Angeles, where whole neighborhoods are gay, coffee shops, gyms, restaurants and many other types of businesses, where nobody would look at you twice or even care if you are gay.

Not sure how it is done in Herndon, VA., but out here in parts of California it is the "Gay Mecca". :D
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I have done two trips to Sf, the first in 1996, and the other in this past summer. I have made no bones about it, I love SF.

The issue for me at this point is a city with a strong Gay community that is accepting and loving of all its parts. This is what I found in DFW so many years ago.But as DC has become the city of the haves and haves nots; I don;t want to hedge my bets on a week or two visit.
 
Yeah, dogs are great. I have so many good memories involving Rosie (who passed less than a year ago), Gracie, and Mouse (who is Gracie's son).

Guitarius said:
Maybe you should learn how to fight.
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scem0 said:
I've taken years and years of martial arts
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So, I can handle myself in such situations quite well. Although my favorite martial art is a non-combat style (contemporary wushu) :(. It would still help me if I were to fight someone, just not much :cool:. I have taken lots of kung fu though (elephant, ambush, and general northern shaolin, see my martial arts thread from forever ago).

My physical appearance is a total misrepresentation of my physical abilities, I think. I don't appear to be someone who could put up a fight, my hair is too blond and my skin is too pail. I don't appear to be someone who is gymnastically inclined either. I love to see the faces of unsuspecting people after I do a backflip :p. My friends always joke about me opening up an act in Union Square in which I flip and juggle. I'm working on a 5 ball cascade for the show (very unsucessfully, keeping 5 balls in the air seems impossible to me). When I was little I wanted to be a clown, so I have flaming torches, professional juggling balls, and a lot of practice :p. Then I decided I wanted to be an olympic diver, resulting in a 5 year diving stint, which is where I learned gymnastics.

So, I appear to be a pale white computer nerd, and that is accurate to some degree, but I'm acrobatic clown at heart :p.

_Emerson
 
Chip NoVaMac said:
I have done two trips to Sf, the first in 1996, and the other in this past summer. I have made no bones about it, I love SF.

The issue for me at this point is a city with a strong Gay community that is accepting and loving of all its parts. This is what I found in DFW so many years ago.But as DC has become the city of the haves and haves nots; I don;t want to hedge my bets on a week or two visit.
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I understand completely, and DC is pretty polarized isn't it? The gap just keeps getting wider and wider. I guess living out here, I kind of take a certain amount of open mindedness for granted. I have never been to D.C., is it still in the "Dark Ages" in terms of being openminded?

At least you don't live in Alabama or Oklahoma where they still practice lynchings and other such neanderthal behaviors. Recognizing gay rights to me is truly the last frontier of civil rights. When will the courts finally recognize that it is as basic or fundamental as free speech or freedom of religion?
 
Chip NoVaMac said:
I did ate girls at the time to try and fit in.
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Another great slip there! ;)


Just kidding with ya. Great stories, great thread, guys. Keep it up! <wanders off>
 
Chip NoVaMac said:
I miss my Chewey dearly too. You will have to do a search here on MR to see our sad tale.




Hopefully over the next few weeks. It will be a last minute trip I think. At $40 round trip, you might be able to see a different part of the East Coast. Who knows I might take you to your first totally nude strip bar. \\

When I come up it will be on an over night Chinatown bus, or the first China town bus in the morning, with the latest possible return trip. It looks like less than 24 hours up there, in any case.

I am saving my time off for Lee to show me why I might move to Chicago.

And before Lee panics, it would not just because of him being there. :)

Though that might be reason enough. :D
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Ha-ha! Don't forget that little hottie PlaceofDis is here too. Yum. The girl who lands that one is lucky. :) emw and Mr. Anderson are here too. Though I haven't seen them around here lately.
 
scem0 said:
Yeah, dogs are great. I have so many good memories involving Rosie (who passed less than a year ago), Gracie, and Mouse (who is Gracie's son).



:D

So, I can handle myself in such situations quite well. Although my favorite martial art is a non-combat style (contemporary wushu) :(. It would still help me if I were to fight someone, just not much :cool:. I have taken lots of kung fu though (elephant, ambush, and general northern shaolin, see my martial arts thread from forever ago).

My physical appearance is a total misrepresentation of my physical abilities, I think. I don't appear to be someone who could put up a fight, my hair is too blond and my skin is too pail. I don't appear to be someone who is gymnastically inclined either. I love to see the faces of unsuspecting people after I do a backflip :p. My friends always joke about me opening up an act in Union Square in which I flip and juggle. I'm working on a 5 ball cascade for the show (very unsucessfully, keeping 5 balls in the air seems impossible to me). When I was little I wanted to be a clown, so I have flaming torches, professional juggling balls, and a lot of practice :p. Then I decided I wanted to be an olympic diver, resulting in a 5 year diving stint, which is where I learned gymnastics.

So, I appear to be a pale white computer nerd, and that is accurate to some degree, but I'm acrobatic clown at heart :p.

_Emerson
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You should do an act in Union Square! Imagine the dates you'd get. :)
 
highres said:
I understand completely, and DC is pretty polarized isn't it? The gap just keeps getting wider and wider. I guess living out here, I kind of take a certain amount of open mindedness for granted. I have never been to D.C., is it still in the "Dark Ages" in terms of being openminded?
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Absolutely not, it is a great place to live and be gay. Rob and I lived there for three years together, and he lived there for 6 years before that. I do kind of miss it, to be honest. Maybe we'll move back.

That said, Chip is right. Rob met most of his "friends" on Capitol Hill when he first moved here from Lousiana as a young twenty-something working for a Lousisiana Senator. Most of them worked their way in the system and have $100,000-$150,000 yearly salaries. Rob and I make 120,000 combined and were struggling in DC with the cost of living.

There is a definite "snotty" gap in DC between "good working folks" like us and the upper crust. More and more, gay DC is full of very wealthy gay men with tons of disposable income and "I'm fabulous, what do you mean, you work 12 hours a day?" mindset.

I love Annapolis, but I definitely miss DC. I suppose I feel a lot different about belonging these days (I'm not trolling for sympathy here) since my dad and my grandmother, both really the last of my real family, passed away last month. I kind of feel like I'm trying to find out n decide where my place in this world really is now that they are gone.

Bah. Enough of that.

DC is a great place. I miss being able to run every night right down to the mall, rung right down the street and get a haircut, buy dinner, see a movie.

I do not miss driving through abject poverty on my way home every night or the insanely high cost of living, though.
 
Chip NoVaMac said:
Well that leaves me out. LOL!

Gary, maybe I need to test your skills as a photographer. We should connect so that you and everyone else can see what 13 years in a relationship can do.
:)

To be honest weight has been a problem for me my entire life. Imagine going through JHS as a 240#+ guy. It was not till HS that I met Coach Harriston (God rest his soul - died in a car accident about 10 years at Malfunction Junction in PG county after I graduated). He was the first person that judged me not on my size, but my heart. His words and encouragement led me to a "decent" weight by the time of my Prom.

My ex loved bigger men, and I feel prey to his desires. I also accept blame that when I am in a relationship I tend to gain weight. Always have, and maybe always will.

At the point that my ex split, I was at 280#. I am now at 260#. During most of my life after HS, people thought I was "ligheter" than I was. At the point I met my ex, I was at 190-200#. Given my "advanced" years, I will be happy to get to 210-220# by next year this time. Not to attract the "right" person, but to be in better health.
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The invite still stands. ;)
 
leekohler said:
You should do an act in Union Square! Imagine the dates you'd get. :)
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I did a backflip and a flip-flop back-flip when I was in Union Square for the first time with my friends and a cute guy actually did start talking to me. :eek:

I've been thinking about doing hand stand pushups to build upper body strength. Because a) I can't do them very well, yet b) they are such a good work out c) it would improve my dexterity and balance d) it would be so much more fun than pushups + crunches :).

_Emerson
 
Youth

Youth, large, lusty, loving - youth full of grace, force, facination,
Do you know that Old Age may come after you with equal grace, force, facination ?
Youth, Day, Old Age, and Night
Walt Whitman
 
scem0 said:
I did a backflip and a flip-flop back-flip when I was in Union Square for the first time with my friends and a cute guy actually did start talking to me. :eek:

I've been thinking about doing hand stand pushups to build upper body strength. Because a) I can't do them very well, yet b) they are such a good work out c) it would improve my dexterity and balance d) it would be so much more fun than pushups + crunches :).

_Emerson
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Yeah- some day they'll find a substitute for the evil crunch. :)
 
All of these exercise machines you see on TV late at night are 99% crap. I find them amusing to watch, though, especially when they name an exercise machine an Ab "Lounger." LOL! Essentially looks like a cheap, aluminum-tube lounge-chair you can buy at Walmart that is broken. I guess it's named to appeal to those who think they can get a 6-pack by lounging for 10 minutes a day.

But I find the photo of that guy on the Ab Lounger pretty funny.

http://store1.yimg.com/I/fitquest_1859_24913

Could he look more gay? Especially with his hands bound together?? WTF!
 
scem0 said:
Personally, I've always wanted to try the abtronic :)
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I tried something similar during a Christmas Holiday. It gave no visible result and in the end I got some kind of epileptic seizure. I've never had similar seizures before or after, so I expect it was triggered by the device. I'm not sure if it is a common problem, but now you've been warned. :p
 
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