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Guy at school harassing my girlfriend?
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Young girls accept a lot of horrible behaviour thinking that is what they're supposed to do. Then as time goes on and confidence builds, hopefully the tolerance for that BS goes way down.
All you can [or should] do is recommend she tell someone if the situation is bothering her, or urge her to be more assertive in how she tells him to stop it. That's a skill any teenage girl needs to become familiar with. After that, I think you should drop it, because even if she should stand up for herself, it's not your place to do that for her.
All you can [or should] do is recommend she tell someone if the situation is bothering her, or urge her to be more assertive in how she tells him to stop it. That's a skill any teenage girl needs to become familiar with. After that, I think you should drop it, because even if she should stand up for herself, it's not your place to do that for her.
You should get law enforcement involved and contact her school/parents. This is a crime and should go punished.
lol just kidding, you should sack the **** up and talk to the guy personally.
lol just kidding, you should sack the **** up and talk to the guy personally.
Most sensible answer so far. Getting the law involved is more immature and childish than what the guy's doing.
How is it immature and childish to call the cops on sexual assault?
I'd imagine this is the kind of thinking that leads to the many unreported rape claims.
Edit: Ah beaten to the punch already!
Maybe. People may disagree with calling the cops, but it is a viable option. It isn't overkill and certainly not immature and childish because there is a major crime being committed. Calling the cops on a person spitting on you would be overkill, but sexual assault? Do kids really see sexual assault as no big deal?
The unfortunate fact is that often times young girls (and boys, for that matter) don't see it as a sexual assault. It's attention, sometimes perceived as self-confirming attention. It's just something they have to grow out of before learning/realizing it's unacceptable behaviour and treating it as such.
When I was a teenage girl I put up with having my ass slapped, my boobs grabbed, my body in general spoken about like it was just an object, been bear-hugged off my feet until I finally kicked the guy to let me go, etc. I never thought much of it at the time. Just one of those things. It's not until I got older I looked back and thought "what the hell was I thinking?"
Speaking of which, and not to make light of anything I just got back from a great holiday in Italy
Speaking of which, and not to make light of anything I just got back from a great holiday in Italy
Hehe, funny how this sounds so much more fun in this (your) situation. Damn you, all wrecking my point.
Like others are saying, this is a case of sexual harassment that should be dealt with at the school level first. If I were you, my first thought would be to try to get her to understand that she is being harassed. This kind of behavior is not tolerated in the workplace or at university and it shouldn't be tolerated at a high school either.
BTW Whether you think the OP should or should not be 'dating' now is entirely beside the point. I don't see how that's helpful.
BTW Whether you think the OP should or should not be 'dating' now is entirely beside the point. I don't see how that's helpful.
Tru dat.
OP, ditch and move on, (no offence), but the relationship will eventually break up, might as well cut your losses.
If she was that bothered she'd do something about it, properly.
Yep. They're all the same. Just like the [insert wide reaching generalisation here].
This is close second for POTD.
I know, I know. That's exactly what I thought when I read the title. But you're here reading it too. It's addictive. Like crack.
So how do you initiate relationships? I'm just wondering if I can cut out all the crap bits and jump straight into bed*.
AppleMatt
*joking. But how do you initiate a relationship?
I know several people who've stayed together for decades and are in fact still together after meeting at school, so it does happen
.Given the British government have estimated that 95% of rapes aren't reported (which is something people would definitely be bothered about) I don't think that's a reasonable statement.
Hooker + Cash = Bed
Though for a marriage without dating there are still parts of the world where the marriage is arranged by the parents. Then you get surprised by the appearance and personality of the spouse on the wedding day
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I know several people who've stayed together for decades and are in fact still together after meeting at school, so it does happen
Same, but they were never in relationships whilst at school...
I'd hardly call this rape...
But, the psychology could still be applied to this case especially since this is a 14 year old girl being sexually assaulted.
Neither would I, but as Quagmire says the psychology is similar.
If only 5% of rape cases in the UK are reported then stuff like this will be less likely to be reported by the general population as its less serious and less cut and dried and probably even less likely to be reported in a school.
Now its possible that rapes are much more likely to be reported in the US but I don't have any comparable numbers on that.
It's definitely WAY over the line, far beyond being playful.
Understand, I see in your sig. you state you're 14, so you're young, meaning she probably is too. She probably DOES like the attention, young girls do, all girls really, but it doesn't excuse it's perversion.
I don't know how long you've been dating, but if not to long, then this is hers, and only her, battle. If the relationship has a long history, meaning more than say 6 months, then it is up to you to protect. But do it in a manner that is necessary for a 14 year old to do.
Be safe, and attentive, not physical and impulsive.
AL9o
Well said! I agree with all the above...worst case scenario cut her loose and find something else at the mall, church, Apple store...etc.
Girls your age are a dime a dozen...rinse repeat...
Ha. I should've added High school before dating.....My fault. I know I mentioned it previously in that post, just didn't remember to use the same exact words.
. Nice catch.She's trying to make you jealous. You offered to help but she says it's no big deal, than why act like it's a problem in the first place? Chicks do this even when they're older so get used to it now. Just ignore the bait and move on.
and LOL at the people saying call the police...weren't you ever 14?
and LOL at the people saying call the police...weren't you ever 14?