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Guy at school harassing my girlfriend?
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If it were my son that was behaving this way (not talking about the OP here), I'd thrash him, 1) because he shouldn't treat ladies that way, and 2) because that would be a definitive embarrassment (or even legal issue) to me and the wife who are legally responsible for what he does. That's not an appropriate way for 14 yr olds to act (but maybe he's older?).
If that were my son, I'd definitely want to know if he was acting this way in school. If your GF doesn't tell someone, I'd tell your parents so that they could tell your GF's parents/school what was going on.
Your GF may or may not be capable of handling herself, but that boy needs to be shown that he shouldn't be doing what he's doing. He's going to grow up thinking that's OK since your GF isn't stopping him. I'd also bet he's done this before. Realize that just because your GF may not be having an issue with this (although she actually might), other girls may have been affected negatively by that boy.
If that were my son, I'd definitely want to know if he was acting this way in school. If your GF doesn't tell someone, I'd tell your parents so that they could tell your GF's parents/school what was going on.
Your GF may or may not be capable of handling herself, but that boy needs to be shown that he shouldn't be doing what he's doing. He's going to grow up thinking that's OK since your GF isn't stopping him. I'd also bet he's done this before. Realize that just because your GF may not be having an issue with this (although she actually might), other girls may have been affected negatively by that boy.
look, all the people bashing him, leave him alone!
Yeah i know he's only 14 (sorry to patronise you there OP, it's not intended) compared to many other older, and even very adult people here, but he's still going to have feelings at this age and i totally understand what he's going through. Jealously is a very hard thing to deal with at this kind of age and telling him to 'move on' 'get rid of her' and 'stop dating now and again after high school' is no valid help. He's not actually going to read that and think,
"Why of course! the solution is, i shouldn't be with her in the first place! LOL
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OP, im totally with you here and something needs to be done. You need to let your girlfriend know how much it is bothering you or as suggested take it further with some kind of authority. I would've gave this guy a piece of my mind by now, but perhaps your not like that
And for anyones information, i'm 17, nearly 18. I know, only a few years older, but it makes a huge difference at this age
Yeah i know he's only 14 (sorry to patronise you there OP, it's not intended) compared to many other older, and even very adult people here, but he's still going to have feelings at this age and i totally understand what he's going through. Jealously is a very hard thing to deal with at this kind of age and telling him to 'move on' 'get rid of her' and 'stop dating now and again after high school' is no valid help. He's not actually going to read that and think,
"Why of course! the solution is, i shouldn't be with her in the first place! LOL
"OP, im totally with you here and something needs to be done. You need to let your girlfriend know how much it is bothering you or as suggested take it further with some kind of authority. I would've gave this guy a piece of my mind by now, but perhaps your not like that
And for anyones information, i'm 17, nearly 18. I know, only a few years older, but it makes a huge difference at this age
That's the key right there.
If you make sure she's fully aware of how uncomfortable this makes you and she continues to brush off these advances and does nothing to put a stop to it, whether it be by confronting the guy or reporting it to somebody with some authority then she's hardly worth being with.
FWIW, while everyone has been babbling on and on...
the OP hasn't been here in this thread since post #7... 10 minutes after his original post
the OP hasn't been here in this thread since post #7... 10 minutes after his original post
Well given his last activity time was around 90 minutes ago I expect he's been reading the thread, but there are a lot of people saying different things and it'd take a fair bit of confidence to argue with either side
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I remember during my undergrad days when a girl tackled me...
She didn't even let me dry off after the shower.
Then the tripod got knocked over.
She didn't even let me dry off after the shower.
Then the tripod got knocked over.
I've been reading this lol. I just feel most of these responses aren't worth responding to since they're all stupid things like telling me to dump her and whatnot.
Don't take this the wrong way, k?
When you get a bit older (maybe a lot; I don't know for sure) you're going to realize that the advice you're getting here that you think is stupid is the advice you should have followed from the start. Get dicked around in enough relationships and you'll learn when to run.
Live and learn, man. Have fun doing it. Can't forget that part.
Look, kiddo - she obviously likes it. There's nothing you can do to salvage the relationship. Take the dumpage like a man and move on.
Get into a decent college, and in ten years show up at your class reunion in a $50,000 Mercedes - while she shows up with a biker, two kids and a half paid mortgage.
So OP, what is your conclusion? What are you going to do about this? I personaly would ask her if she is really playing with you and attempting to make you jelious, or if she really doesn't know how to handle it (too scared, doesn't know what should be done) At age 14, you and her should know the difference between what's right and what is wrong! I'm 14, and I know that this is wrong. Good thing I never see it happen at my school though. You know your girl friend better than we do. Some girls are shy. So maybe she can't defend her self. Maye she is ENJOYING it and wants to piss you off. Like I said you know her personality. You are the man. You are here to protect your girlfriend. You do what you think is right. That's my advice.
Good luck. I personaly would go to guidence, or a principal and report it. Even if she likes the inapropate stuff, it is wrong, and you should know that, and report it for her protection.
Once again do what you think is right.
-Nick
i got braces
LOL!
Yeah, kid, eat something!!!
Stupid responses? C'mon!
...well, maybe...
To the OP...
If you ever want to know why girls date older men - look in the mirror.
You kids have absolutely no balls. Here's a concept: GROW a pair!
You don't like what she's doing with this guy - tell her and go with her in a nonchalant way. When he does it to her in front of you you confront the bastard!
Oh, wait - you're 16.
here's another concept - do your Algebra II homework.
If she's doing this sort of thing now what do you think will happen when she gets to college?
If you ever want to know why girls date older men - look in the mirror.
You kids have absolutely no balls. Here's a concept: GROW a pair!
You don't like what she's doing with this guy - tell her and go with her in a nonchalant way. When he does it to her in front of you you confront the bastard!
Oh, wait - you're 16.
here's another concept - do your Algebra II homework.
If she's doing this sort of thing now what do you think will happen when she gets to college?
How do you know?
How do you know?
I'd follow what Gelfin has to say, as he's usually spot on in PRSI. And its not dump her LOL.
Also inappropriate, thrashing a fourteen year old child.
OP: I think this is being blown out of proportion. Bring up your concerns with your girlfriend and ask what she has really done to stop this. Frankly, if she had told the guy to stop, he probably would have stopped. On the slight chance that he didn't stop, then if she just told a teacher (a female one is probably best), then there is no way he would continue. On the even smaller chance that he continued, then the teacher would just give him detention/suspension (if it is really the sexual assualt that you alleged) and he wouldn't do it again.
However, despite all of these steps, I'm pretty sure that this was blown out of proportion by your GF and if you are concerned bring it up with her (not your friendly neighbourhood Mac Rumours forum buddies).
King Mook Mook
You're kidding me, right?
Fourteen is NOT a child. 100 years ago, that was enough to be a man. Two more years and that's eligibility to drive. And, they send 14-yr-olds to prison for sexual assault nowadays (and parents may well be liable).
Yep, I'd definitely thrash my kid if he was that age and was doing that in school. I've two girls that are pretty close to 14. There's no way I'd want some guy like that touching them.
I don't think you've kids and if you do, you probably have issues with them, with the attitude you have...seriously.
What would you do? Put him on time-out???
14 is a child
Add some substance to that statement? How do you think otherwise?
Like I said, there are 14 yr old murderists and rapists too...in jail. If you're old enough to be doing that, then you're NOT a child, just as girls who are old enough to give birth are not children.
I'm not saying to abuse a child, but I'm a firm believer and punishment for something like that. If I can't do that, then they belong somewhere else. You can't raise a kid without being an authority figure or you're going to walked all over and will eventually pay the price.
I have this friend who used to always complain about his step-child being in trouble with the law (his kid is 15). He told me that the next time he had to bail his kid out, he was going to approach the judge and tell him that he'd done his utmost to keep the kid on a straight path but that the kid had a mind of his own and wouldn't listen...he was going to suggest to the judge to take his boy. Now, that's sad.
As a parent, you're responsible for your children. You can be sued when your kid does something negligent or unlawful.
So, what if this kid is actually assaulting this 14-yr-old girl? No punishment whatsoever? Yeah, right. Suspension's not gonna cut it.
I dissagree. Ever since I started High School my folks said to me: "Right Daniel, you can do whatever you want, go where ever you want to go, but it's under your own two feet. If you get into any trouble, I will not be here to support you. You can have your 3 meals a day and your bedroom here, but if you ever have a run in with the law, I will not be bailing you out."
Ever since then I was free to do whatever I pleased. It's been a hell of a journey, but I have certainly learned well about the world, by having independace at what I now concidered a young age. We ought to stop wrapping up our kids in cotton wool.
I agree with punishment but at the same time 14 is still legally considered a minor
At what point do you quit being a child? Legally, that age is 18