Something to bear in mind during all this discussion on what does and does not comprise "real" bokeh or indeed whether a DSLR is better than a Mirrorless or if that is better than a smartphone. What really matters is capturing a moment in a way that is faithful to the experience that you, the photographer, had at the time. What you are trying to do is preserve that experience so that you can enjoy it and share it again and again.
From my understanding, the human eye captures a scene by jumping from point of interest to point of interest in a (largely) involuntary manner and builds up a mental photograph of the scene. Both the iris and the lens within the eye will constantly adapt to each point of interest adjusting focus and exposure each time. The process is a bit like building up a jigsaw of image segments to form the whole scene. If you've ever seen any science programs which involve eye-tracking then you'll understand what I mean. So the human eye won't normally experience 'bokeh' unless it is staring at a single point unblinkingly. Even then, because we usually have two eyes, we don't see the unfocussed area in the same way as a single lens camera due to divergence.
So this is already very different to how a typical camera captures a scene and so pretty much every photograph ever taken is already "artificial" when compared to what you would experience with the naked eye.
What a good photographer does is capture the essence of the scene through a combination of techniques, probably the most important of which is framing the shot followed by things like focus and depth of field etc. Lighting is also crucial obviously. However, regardless of the equipment or techniques employed, the resulting photograph is necessarily a subjective and opinionated representation of the real-life scene and what really matters is whether it captures the experience in a way that pleases the photographer.
Until light field cameras such as the Lytro are perfected and hit the mainstream our photographs will always be opinionated and subjective. What's great about smartphone cameras is that they are more likely to be in your pocket when you see a scene you want to capture and although optically they will never be as "good" as larger format cameras, we can all gain from any improvements in their capabilities.
So enjoy whatever camera you have in your hand and keep experimenting with different techniques and tools to get the effect you want. Nobody can do that better than you!
