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Its NOT about the money! We have the money! He just doesn't want me to get it cause he says I don't need it.
So now how do I convince him to let me get it???

It sounds like your dad is trying to teach you a lesson about NEEDS vs. WANTS.
 
When you want to start putting stuff in your own name, go nuts and get a 3GS.

Can't do that! Say I made my own account. My Dad would know, cause I would cancel my phone on the family plan, then he would get mad, and he would get my account canceled. Then I would be back where I started except a whole lot of money poorer.
 
What would happen if u just bought it anyways, will he take it away from you?

Just be like Dad I know you dont want me to get it, but this is my money I have saved up and I choose to buy this iPhone. You will probably be mad at me but in life we have to make our own decision and you cant always be making them for me. So I want to buy this phone because my phone is breaking and it is my responsibility to be able to keep connected with my family so I need this phone. I promise I will not lose the phone or break the phone, and it comes with a warranty....and then go ahead and buy it
 
Why not suggest the "plain" 3G? Show him a little maturity by suggesting an upgraded phone that's not the top of the line, but still an upgrade on to what you currently have, and save $100.00 doing so.

You're obviously still very young. You don't need the top of the line car. Just one that works significantly better than your older, breaking down one. And you don't need the top of the line phone. Just one that works significantly better than your older, breaking down iPhone.
 
Can't do that! Say I made my own account. My Dad would know, cause I would cancel my phone on the family plan, then he would get mad, and he would get my account canceled. Then I would be back where I started except a whole lot of money poorer.

It's not going to kill you not to upgrade your phone. Your dad makes the rules and that's the way it's going to be until you get your own job and have your own place.
 
That and any constructiveness was overshadowed by mocking and rudeness. While I understand everyone can asks questions like this, I haven't heard the warrant for why we must do this to every kid that asks a question like this?

Clearly the OP was going to comeback after you asked if daddy put them in time-out...

+1 for Maturity.

Amen

Good post
 
Can't do that! Say I made my own account. My Dad would know, cause I would cancel my phone on the family plan, then he would get mad, and he would get my account canceled. Then I would be back where I started except a whole lot of money poorer.

How could he cancel an account you made for yourself?

Have you asked him what his reasoning is? If he says money, have you offered your solution of paying for it? If he keeps saying "no", have you asked him what he wants you to do with the cash?

You can't bite the hand that feeds, man ... if you want to stay on the family plan gravy train, you gotta play by (your family's) rules.
 
It sounds like your dad is trying to teach you a lesson about NEEDS vs. WANTS.

He's already tried to teach me this stuff before and it worked! I've gotten "1 thing" in the past 2 years! That's all! No one even remembers what I even got for last Christmas. Not me or any of my family! That's how much stuff I buy!! Now all I'm asking is to upgrade my phone and I haven't gotten anything for my past 3 b-days, which I could use towards this phone too. I've been saving up my money, ok? So how can I convince him to let me get the phone even after all this has failed???
 
He's already tried to teach me this stuff before and it worked! I've gotten "1 thing" in the past 2 years! That's all! No one even remembers what I even got for last Christmas. Not me or any of my family! That's how much stuff I buy!! Now all I'm asking is to upgrade my phone and I haven't gotten anything for my past 3 b-days, which I could use towards this phone too. I've been saving up my money, ok? So how can I convince him to let me get the phone even after all this has failed???

I guess the question is ... how are you expecting us to know your family dynamics?
 
What would happen if u just bought it anyways, will he take it away from you?

Just be like Dad I know you dont want me to get it, but this is my money I have saved up and I choose to buy this iPhone. You will probably be mad at me but in life we have to make our own decision and you cant always be making them for me. So I want to buy this phone because my phone is breaking and it is my responsibility to be able to keep connected with my family so I need this phone. I promise I will not lose the phone or break the phone, and it comes with a warranty....and then go ahead and buy it

^^Tell him this!!...it shows maturity and you can stand up for urself
 
How could he cancel an account you made for yourself?

Have you asked him what his reasoning is? If he says money, have you offered your solution of paying for it? If he keeps saying "no", have you asked him what he wants you to do with the cash?

You can't bite the hand that feeds, man ... if you want to stay on the family plan gravy train, you gotta play by (your family's) rules.

He would force me to cancel my account, or he'd just get the cop's involved!

Yes I said I'll pay for it!

If I ask him what his reasoning is, he just yells at me and says conversation over. If I ask him "what do you want me to do with my money then?", then he would call me a smart a*s and take my phone away!

I guess the question is ... how are you expecting us to know your family dynamics?

U don't know my family's dynamics, but what would you do if you were in my position??
 
Wah Wah Wah... Boo hoo... Wah Wah... Now all I'm asking is to upgrade my phone and I haven't gotten anything for my past 3 b-days, which I could use towards this phone too. I've been saving up my money, ok? So how can I convince him to let me get the phone even after all this has failed???

Listen - if you are not old enough to open your own account and be responsible for the phone and the monthly plan - that's life. Deal with it.

Wait until you can do that.
 
He would force me to cancel my account, or he'd just get the cop's involved!

Yes I said I'll pay for it!

If I ask him what his reasoning is, he just yells at me and says conversation over. If I ask him "what do you want me to do with my money then?", then he would call me a smart a*s and take my phone away!

When I was younger, I had money from working and what not but my parents made me save it for college. Yeah, I earned it, but I was still living under their roof, they were paying my bills, and they said save your $ for college. Yeah, I said you could SAVE your money. You know, NOT spend it, hold onto it, etc. You don't need to spend a dollar just because you have one.

I can tell you aren't very mature just by the title of your thread. "Like seriously?!?!?" is something only a young person would say, or an adult making fun of a teen girl ("Like OMG, for real???!"). You already have a 3G, save your money. You WANT it, you don't NEED it. And as long as your parents pay for your leeching self, what they say goes.
 
I want to upgrade my iphone to the iphone 3GS and my mom says I can get it but my Dad says NO WAY.

What should I say to him to convince him to let me get it?????

Any help will be appreciated!

Thanks!

Edit: I have the money for the iphone 3GS and that's why I need your help. My Dad won't let me spend my own money on it but my mom doesn't care and that's where I need the help. How can I convince him to let me get the phone with MY OWN money?

cant believe how nicey nicey most of the posts have been...like seriously!:rolleyes:

tell him you will go and work in africa for a week doing charity work with kids your age who have never even seen a phone, or eaten a proper meal for that matter....

get a preverbial grip on reality...start appreciating what you have and when you are old enough that you dont need to ask permission to buy a phone, come back and moan all you like.....

rant over
 
Maybe just save up a little more money then buy it if u really want it...or just buy it urself...do u have a debit card or a bank account?
 
Tell him that you might need GPS in the future. You'd be driving and would have no clue how to get back home or need to know on the spot how to get somewhere. Also tell him how the 3GS would completely replace any need for a camera (even though it really doesn't) because it takes high quality 3 MP pictures and records video that you can instantly email. So whenever you guys travel, you'll have all the space you'll ever need for video. Other than that, you already have a phone that can browse the web, so it's hard to put that feature in there, saying that you want to spend this much money for 3G speeds isn't really a good way to put it, but I'd just tell him that you want a faster phone that replaces the need for a GPS device and a camera. Don't have your mom fight over it with your dad though, and you just have to find a way to convince you dad that you have a big interest in this type of stuff and that you want to spend the money on it. If he's all about NEEDS and WANTS, tell him that you need GPS and a CAMERA because your current camera sucks. Good luck man.
 
You WANT it, you don't NEED it.

How many times are people going to repeat this? What's wrong with wanting something as opposed to needing it? If you have the money and it wouldn't be a financial setback you deem unreasonable there's absolutely nothing wrong with indulging in "wants".
 
OK, I understand all you people that keep saying "you don't NEED it, you just WANT it. It's life... blah blah"

!!!BUT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HELP OUT AND YOU JUST WANT TO CRITICIZE, THEN LEAVE THIS THREAD NOW! IM ASKING FOR HELP NOT TO GET PEOPLE TO TELL ME IM SPOILED!!!

I ask a question and get 100 replies of, "your spoiled, your immature, get over it it's life."

You say my title was kidish and stupid... but I know it did get a lot of you to even look at my thread now didn't it?!

So seriously, if you aren't gonna try to help then stop replying! Yea I know you guys would flame, but 100 replies of it, seriously? Some of you keep flaming over again!

Thanks to those of you that are helping though!!!!!!!! :)

How many times are people going to repeat this? What's wrong with wanting something as opposed to needing it? If you have the money and it wouldn't be a financial setback you deem unreasonable there's absolutely nothing wrong with indulging in "wants".

Thankyou!
 
Tell him that you might need GPS in the future. You'd be driving and would have no clue how to get back home or need to know on the spot how to get somewhere. Also tell him how the 3GS would completely replace any need for a camera (even though it really doesn't) because it takes high quality 3 MP pictures and records video that you can instantly email. So whenever you guys travel, you'll have all the space you'll ever need for video. Other than that, you already have a phone that can browse the web, so it's hard to put that feature in there, saying that you want to spend this much money for 3G speeds isn't really a good way to put it, but I'd just tell him that you want a faster phone that replaces the need for a GPS device and a camera. Don't have your mom fight over it with your dad though, and you just have to find a way to convince you dad that you have a big interest in this type of stuff and that you want to spend the money on it. If he's all about NEEDS and WANTS, tell him that you need GPS and a CAMERA because your current camera sucks. Good luck man.

What happened to listening to parents? Is this what I have to look forward to when I have kids? Them making up stupid excuses for why they need {insert item here} because their current version of {insert item here} isn't good enough? What happened to a parent saying "no", and that being the end until the kid was living on their own?

What the h*ll happened to "my house, my rules"?
 
Clearly people posting here don't NEED to give you a hard time, they just WANT to (me included, in the beginning).

Anyway, it sounds like you have a similar family life that I had as a kid. You actually don't sound as bad as we stereotyped you to be, but the reality is, your dad is your dad. He doesn't think you need it and nothing is going to change that, since as you say, you are willing to pay for it out of YOUR money. I'd just give up and when you're older try not to treat your kids the way you were treated.

Also, don't invite grandpa over for anything. :)
 
How many times are people going to repeat this? What's wrong with wanting something as opposed to needing it? If you have the money and it wouldn't be a financial setback you deem unreasonable there's absolutely nothing wrong with indulging in "wants".

Because there are more important things in life to save up for. College? Car payments? Living expenses? Kids should have a savings account, and spending every dime they make will lead them down the road for a miserable life when they get older.
 
OK, I understand all you people that keep saying "you don't NEED it, you just WANT it. It's life... blah blah"

!!!BUT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HELP OUT AND YOU JUST WANT TO CRITICIZE, THEN LEAVE THIS THREAD NOW! IM ASKING FOR HELP NOT TO GET PEOPLE TO TELL ME IM SPOILED!!!

I ask a question and get 100 replies of, "your spoiled, your immature, get over it it's life."

You say my title was kidish and stupid... but I know it did get a lot of you to even look at my thread now didn't it?!

So seriously, if you aren't gonna try to help then stop replying! Yea I know you guys would flame, but 100 replies of it, seriously? Some of you keep flaming over again!

Thanks to those of you that are helping though!!!!!!!! :)
The more you respond like this - the more you are proving our point...
 
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