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how do i tell my girlfriend she's Fat without hurting her feelings...

If you outright call her fat, it's going to piss her off. I can guess this because clearly the communication in your relationship is not strong enough for comfortable mutual honesty, otherwise you wouldn't be asking us. So there is some degree of imbalance there and not just her weight. If you want change, you need to focus on changing yourself and hope she follows but without expecting it.
Don't be a dick about this if you don't want to be treated like one. How would you want to be encouraged to lose weight? Especially in terms of how she gained it, from an injury which has caused her not to be able to participate in a major life passion of hers. That sucks.

So I would recommend working on communicating with her (and not all at once) and start changing yourself what you want to see in her. IYSWIM.
 
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calculus said:
Forgive me if I'm wrong but I would have thought that the point of asking a question like that here would be to get a whole range of ideas about the subject. Thanks for your thoughtful analysis of my input.
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I wouldn't worry, I'm in some doubt whether most of the responders have ever met another human being, let alone been in any kind of relationship. ;)

Blue's right, it sounds like she might be a bit down after losing the chance to pursue one of her passions.

She will know she's put on weight, she doesn't need her to tell you. She will probably appreciate the support of finding ways to get fit or eat well together once (if) she's decided she'd like to lose weight, but what she needs from you now is for you to be supportive and listen to her. It's a question of dealing with the cause, not the symptom.
 
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Wii + Wii fit is good idea although expensive. And it tells you how unfit you are thus doing the insulting for you. Also you may get to join to rid yourself of a few pounds, or get to watch her jiggle about.
 
But it's not selfish to want your girlfriend to be in good health, especially if they were once active. And being in good health is attractive because of that whole parenting thing we have built in (subcoinciously looking for partners who would produce a good looking baby with you), doesn't take into account everyone of course. Some don't want kids at all, some want to abuse, some want a mother/father replacement figure etc.
 
I'm intrigued that the word 'fat' is being used here without any definition of what it might mean. Not only can it mean different things to different people, we don't know what's involved in this case at all.

Some people who are underweight can have a very unhealthy view about these things.
 
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I'm not sure where being offended comes in to all this. Let's assume you love your girlfriend enough to consider marriage and let's assume she is or will be medically overweight. In that case, why would she be offended if you point out something that would jeopardize her health and happiness? It's not like you're going to start taunting her with "Hey fatty" jabs. What you talk about behind closed doors is between you two. If she gets offended then it's either because she's burying her head in the sand and doesn't want to face the truth (so by bringing it into the open you can start addressing the problem) or she doesn't feel close enough to you to be that intimate. This is from a guy with man(.)(.)s who gets reminded of them at regular intervals from my nearest and dearest...

Keniff said:
Apparently, you burn off 900 calories an hour by having sex!
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:eek: How much is that per minute? Now where are my pipe and slippers?
 
raggedjimmi said:
Some don't want kids at all, some want to abuse, some want a mother/father replacement figure etc.
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So people who don't want kids or who "want" to abuse their partner want a fat one, and everyone else doesn't? :confused:

I very much doubt this is about health though.
 
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calculus said:
I'm intrigued that the word 'fat' is being used here without any definition of what it might mean. Not only can it mean different things to different people, we don't know what's involved in this case at all.

Some people who are underweight can have a very unhealthy view about these things.
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Here's a little calculator that will estimate your body fat percentage.

http://www.csgnetwork.com/bodyfatcalc.html
 
Tell her you have this kinky new fetish you wanted to try. Blindfold her and velcro her arms to the treadmill! Tell her it makes you Horny! LOL

Seriously, tell her you feel like crap and ask if she wants to go to the gym with you. You hate to go alone...
 
Hi,

You might want to try the Paleolithic diet (see books by Loren Cordain). This is sometimes known as the Caveman Diet as it takes you back to eating the sort of stuff your ancestors ate and which the human body evolved to eat long before agriculture gave us cheap, energy-rich foods.

Essentially it comes down to eating only that which you can hunt or gather and emphasises lean protein (turkey, chicken, game meats, seafood) and lots of fruit and vegetables and some nuts. It takes away the emphasis on energy dense carbohydrates but note that this is completely different from the atkins diet so don't lump them together. Fats allowed are only those rich in Omega 3 and certainly avoiding saturated fats.

One of the other key things is that it recommends that you boost your intake of protein compared with carbs as protein increased metabolic rate which means you will burn more calories just sitting still. Might sound wasteful in this energy conscious world but in practice it makes you feel more energetic and less lethargic. Avoiding wheat, cereal grains and dairy products can also have hug health benefits if you are one of the many people who have some degree of intolerance. You may not even be aware of it.

Anyway, I would recommend getting a copy of "The Paleo Diet" by Loren Cordain as it is very interesting reading at the very least and may just change your lives. The advice already given on exercise is of course equally important and if you do both then you will see even quicker results.

Good luck,
Craig.
 
arkitect said:
most straight men only last a massive 4 minutes.
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LOL.

Not IME, perhaps I've just known men with stamina in my time, besides why on earth would a male orgasm stop activities from continuing? I've never quite understood this.

If you really want to lose weight through sex related activities I'd suggest BDSM, my arms have built a fair amount of strength from throwing floggers and other such activities and you can go on for hours and hours at it.
 
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Mord said:
If you really want to lose weight through sex related activities I'd suggest BDSM, my arms have built a fair amount of strength from throwing floggers and other such activities and you can go on for hours and hours at it.
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I never thought I'd get aroused while reading macrumors' forums.
 
heres a few choices.
A. Get your "unit" tattooed to look like a twinkie(she will spend hours sweating tryin to get it)
B.Buy her a mirror.
C.If you eat healthier, she will eat healthier.
D.Trade her in for a new model.


Oh and for the person saying most men last 4 minutes in bed........Maybe if you're 16. Takes me well over 45 mins every time.
 
Next Tuesday said:
A. Get your "unit" tattooed to look like a twinkie(she will spend hours sweating tryin to get it)
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That plan could go horribly awry…
twinkie2.jpg


Next Tuesday said:
Oh and for the person saying most men last 4 minutes in bed........Maybe if you're 16. Takes me well over 45 mins every time.
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I guess if one includes the time you need to get "up and ready"…
;)

Its a joke!
:rolleyes:
 
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