This is actually an interesting topic. Because I myself am a guy who is overweight (6'3, 260lbs = 32.5 BMI which according to the charts I am "obese") I don't live an extremely active lifestyle and I should probably eat healthier than I do. I know this, and know that there are plenty of women that do not find "fat" guys like myself attractive.
On the flip side I have never been one of those who thought weight was the factor in whether or not I found a woman attractive. Yes, there are big women who aren't beautiful, just as their are slim women who are not beautiful. With that said though, I am not going to deny the fact that I would obviously prefer to be with a woman who had a good body. However, I say that knowing that I do not have a good body and I would never jeopardize a relationship with a great person because of their weight. Attraction does matter, but we all know beauty is in the eye of the beholder and so what I might find attractive (or not attractive) might appeal to someone else.
So that brings me to address the OPs post. He is asking how to tell his girlfriend that she is fat without hurting her feelings. As it has been said you don't, and frankly why would you want to? I have a hard time believing that it is a health issue, but if that was the case than if you were in a loving relationship with her than it wouldn't seem like such a difficult task to tell her that you are worried about her health. I wouldn't suggest telling her she is fat. And unless you are planning to work on your weight than I wouldn't suggest to her to go the gym or anything.
So this brings up some very interesting debates. First off if you love someone and they become unattractive is that reason to end a relationship? I do not believe it is possible to share your thoughts with her and not at least get some hard feelings from her. I mean even if you were sincere about the health thing I highly doubt she will think of it like that.
Perhaps after dating her and you being attracted to the fact that she had a good body you have become a bit shallow. I do believe that after dating such a beautiful girl for nearly a year I have become more shallow and I am not as attracted to as many women as I was a year ago. But perhaps that has more to do with age.
Bottom line... is it worth jeopardizing your relationship to tell her that for whatever reason you think she should lose weight?
On the flip side I have never been one of those who thought weight was the factor in whether or not I found a woman attractive. Yes, there are big women who aren't beautiful, just as their are slim women who are not beautiful. With that said though, I am not going to deny the fact that I would obviously prefer to be with a woman who had a good body. However, I say that knowing that I do not have a good body and I would never jeopardize a relationship with a great person because of their weight. Attraction does matter, but we all know beauty is in the eye of the beholder and so what I might find attractive (or not attractive) might appeal to someone else.
So that brings me to address the OPs post. He is asking how to tell his girlfriend that she is fat without hurting her feelings. As it has been said you don't, and frankly why would you want to? I have a hard time believing that it is a health issue, but if that was the case than if you were in a loving relationship with her than it wouldn't seem like such a difficult task to tell her that you are worried about her health. I wouldn't suggest telling her she is fat. And unless you are planning to work on your weight than I wouldn't suggest to her to go the gym or anything.
So this brings up some very interesting debates. First off if you love someone and they become unattractive is that reason to end a relationship? I do not believe it is possible to share your thoughts with her and not at least get some hard feelings from her. I mean even if you were sincere about the health thing I highly doubt she will think of it like that.
Perhaps after dating her and you being attracted to the fact that she had a good body you have become a bit shallow. I do believe that after dating such a beautiful girl for nearly a year I have become more shallow and I am not as attracted to as many women as I was a year ago. But perhaps that has more to do with age.
Bottom line... is it worth jeopardizing your relationship to tell her that for whatever reason you think she should lose weight?
