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how to ask a girl out
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LOL, i doubt that is going to work...
i don't live in the middle ages with knights and stuff. sry, merlin, not from ur time.
Without reading the 5 pages, and to answer the OP, you simply tell the girl, "I'm hot, you're hot, let's go out". Done.
lol, i can't even ask the girl out normally. how the heck u expect me to pull that off.
well, i am a pretty good artist( good at drawing). and can use color pencils and paint well. would that work?
That's because you are choosing to place a limit on yourself
hmm, how to put this. i am not choosing to put the limit, my own frikin mind is doing that. its not like i want to be constrained like this.
honestly each girl is different and at the same time exactly alike.
What some girls would think is extremely sweet and cute, others would think it's a lame attempt.
My advice is what a few other people have said: stop being afraid of rejection and just ask her in a the most comfortable way. Which seems like the best for you would be just to go up to her and be as polite as you can and ask her if she would like to go out sometime. The worst she could say is no but it's not the end of the world. At least after that she'll know that you show interest in her and maybe she'll come looking for you.
k, i have another thing. what does it say about somebody when they are being sort secretive i guess? when i or just about anybody asks her what she did the past weekend, she just says nothing. well, maybe she did nothing but she could elaborate. this happens every single week. Is it possible to get her to open up?
Dont get her to open up, become her weekend plans.
"what did u do this weekend?"
"nothing really"
"well thats boring, this weekend how bout you get out and lets see a movie or something?"
Don't try to sound too much like your asking, kinda just say it playfully and gauge her reaction.
I've always gone the light-hearted casual route. Just throw something out there and see what the response is. If you're already good friends, perhaps a simple joke about dating or "hooking up" would be taken well. If she says yeah right, then you've not really committed yourself. And, if she flirts back, and ups the ante, then you've broken the ice.
Many of my girlfriends became girlfriends after simply doing some rather innocent flirting and then peaking their interest to the point that they just had to go for it.
And, depending on the girl, sometimes a direct "hey, wanna f*ck" is all you need. Either they blow it off as a light-hearted joke, and you have some fun with an interesting conversation, or you find that they're interested and get together.
But, then again, I used to make a lot of suggestive comments (which were really just in fun) to most of my female friends. And, we were all used to flirting for the hell of it and just having fun. So, I could just throw something out there and see which way it went. Either way, it was always fun. Either it led to a very interesting and fun conversation, or it led to something... Shall we say hotter. Sometimes I got both reactions (which was particularly nice).
Be careful though... Last time I made a suggestive comment to a woman about just having some fun, I ended up married (been nearly 15 years now).
But, that's not bad either. Now I can just say what's on my mind, and tell her as directly as I want. Sure, there's a time for soft and gentle approaches. But, the more direct ones will usually get you a response other than being softly declined.
I'd rather put it directly and either have a fun flirtatious conversation (or be taken up on my offer), than take a soft gentle approach that would be easier to decline.
Think of it this way... You go up and say "would you like to go out with me?", and she says (likely in a very gentle and polite way) no thank you. Or, you can just be direct, and then most likely even a rejection would be fun and take the relationship to a more interesting level.
If you up the friendship to fun and flirtatious, then at least you've gained some ground. Then, perhaps you'll have some more interesting and flirtatious conversations. And, perhaps over time, she'll decide that she'd like to do more than just talk about getting together.
Of course, I guess that all depends on the girl. I've never really gone after the shy quiet ones. So, if the innocent type is what you're after, then you're on your own
Many of my girlfriends became girlfriends after simply doing some rather innocent flirting and then peaking their interest to the point that they just had to go for it.
And, depending on the girl, sometimes a direct "hey, wanna f*ck" is all you need. Either they blow it off as a light-hearted joke, and you have some fun with an interesting conversation, or you find that they're interested and get together.
But, then again, I used to make a lot of suggestive comments (which were really just in fun) to most of my female friends. And, we were all used to flirting for the hell of it and just having fun. So, I could just throw something out there and see which way it went. Either way, it was always fun. Either it led to a very interesting and fun conversation, or it led to something... Shall we say hotter. Sometimes I got both reactions (which was particularly nice).
Be careful though... Last time I made a suggestive comment to a woman about just having some fun, I ended up married (been nearly 15 years now).
But, that's not bad either. Now I can just say what's on my mind, and tell her as directly as I want. Sure, there's a time for soft and gentle approaches. But, the more direct ones will usually get you a response other than being softly declined.
I'd rather put it directly and either have a fun flirtatious conversation (or be taken up on my offer), than take a soft gentle approach that would be easier to decline.
Think of it this way... You go up and say "would you like to go out with me?", and she says (likely in a very gentle and polite way) no thank you. Or, you can just be direct, and then most likely even a rejection would be fun and take the relationship to a more interesting level.
If you up the friendship to fun and flirtatious, then at least you've gained some ground. Then, perhaps you'll have some more interesting and flirtatious conversations. And, perhaps over time, she'll decide that she'd like to do more than just talk about getting together.
Of course, I guess that all depends on the girl. I've never really gone after the shy quiet ones. So, if the innocent type is what you're after, then you're on your own
Could be she went to rehab and doesn't want to talk about it...
Could be she has some hobbies she doesn't want anyone to know about (perhaps a nerd in prep's make-up).
Could be she has a job as a stripper.
Could be she went down on your best friend and doesn't want to talk about it.
Could be she spends the weekends with relatives, and doesn't care to get into the reason why.
Could be she lives in a controlling household and has very little personal life.
Perhaps she's only allowed to leave the house for school, and tries to act like she has a normal childhood.
Could be that there's some sort of issues at home that she doesn't want to discuss.
Could be she's just shy.
Could be she's in a book club, and spends all her time reading novels and getting together with others to discuss them.
Could be that she's responsible for all the missing people in your town.
Could mean that she has a boring life and tries to pretend it's great when she's with her friends.
Could be she spends every weekend working in the garden.
Could be she spends the weekend figuring out scientific theories.
Could be that she spent the weekend talking to aliens.
Could be that whatever it was, you don't want to know about it.
Yeah, that totally works, draw her a Liger. Or a draw her a portrait, both will definitely get you the girl.
Excellent observation..what is your typing speed WPM.
Dangerous question to ask a dateless guy
Perhaps you should specify... Typing speed with one hand, or with two?
Now... Just teasing.
But, if you type well enough, you could always offer to type her papers. Maybe slip something in with her homework and see if she catches it. Just a little tease....
I was going to say build her a cake, or something..
Oh, there's the root of everything.. No, of course men aren't chauvinist pigs!
lol, no, nothing has happened today cuz we were both in dif classrooms and it was one exam after another so, no.
GOD it will either happen or it wont... what are you gonna do about it? ANYTHING??? if not, then step down...but if so..let her know....