Don't consider myself elitist, perhaps a fan of Apple products as they have done me well over the years. Much batter than other brands.
With that said, the jack is gone, it's not coming back. I know it can be a pain to alter ones usual behavior. However, all the moaning and groaning just keeps you focused on your dislike. I don't find my iPhone seven inferior to my 6s. It's faster, better screen color, better camera and the solid state button is preferred by me over the old home button.
I won't defend the jack removal with larger Taptic Engine or waterproofing as that may or may not have merit. I have bought a couple of dongles and have adjusted my life using the Lightning port. It has not been a very great ordeal. I so rarely charged and listened to music at same time, it's a non issue for me.
I was pissed when I lost the original dongle from my pocket within the first 12 hours. I have learned to keep it plugged into the headphones. No more issues.
If you get a pimple and you constantly stare at it, it seems a big deal. Ignore it and the irritation goes away. Same with the jack, stop whining about it, learn to change your learned behavior and move on. It too, is just a pimple. Sore and irritating at first, but iPhone life goes on.