The point wasn't that people are choosing a device that doesn't meet their needs, the point is that you're bundling all the myriad considerations that go into people's decision for a specific platform and then interpret this as an explicit backing for every policy Apple has put in place. That's just not how these things work and you know it.
I will thank you kindly to stop misinterpreting my words and then trying to browbeat me with your misinterpretation of them. Yes, there are many things to consider when choosing a phone (or quite a few other things). For some of them you get exactly what you want. For others, you accept the consequences of your choice ("well, I really like how fast you can fill up a gasoline-burning car, but I want all the other benefits of an electric car, so I will knowingly forego that quick-fill advantage"). I have bought some things before knowing full well that they weren't quite the color that I really wanted, for instance. I did so knowing that, and it's on me. You make your selection from the choices available. If you buy something that works in a well-documented and understood way, and then complain later, you should be complaining at yourself for not researching your choice better ahead of time.
If, rather than just complaining, you lobby the government to bring in the magical after-purchase-change fairy to make your device work differently than it did when you bought it -
especially when there are people who bought it partly on the basis of the features you're not trying to eliminate, that's a despicable position to take.
Here's a different example. Before the Apple Watch was a thing, I bought an analog watch I really like (a mid-size diver's watch). I bought this model specifically
because it was comparatively small (IIRC, it's 38mm vs many other 45mm and larger watches out there). That wasn't the only reason I bought it, but it was one compelling reason. And I love that watch (one of my few disappointments about the Apple Watch, oddly, is it motivates me to not wear the other two watches I have). Anyway, this watch was not inexpensive (well, watch fanatics would probably consider it so, but it's nowhere near a checkout-line impulse purchase). I researched it a bunch, because it was an expensive purchase, and I was expecting to wear it every day, everywhere, for a long time. I got it from an authorized retailer to ensure the warranty was fully valid and such. Out of curiosity, I looked it up on Amazon, some months later, and found it had a bunch of 1-star reviews. But they were pretty much all of the form, "
THIS WATCH IS TOO SMALL!!! It's only suitable for a woman or small child, not for a man" (FWIW, I'm a grown man over six feet tall and the watch fits
just exactly the way that I want - they wanted a dinner-plate sized watch and this wasn't it). Basically, they were reviews left by a bunch of
idiots, who dropped hundreds of dollars on a terrific watch that had all the specifications clearly listed, because they were too stupid to (1) read the listed size, (2) hold up a ruler, and (3) decide if the size was right for their needs. They were intentionally damaging the reputation and sales potential of the watch (search for "diver's watch" 4 stars and up, and it wouldn't appear), because somebody needed to be blamed for their mistake, and it
certainly wasn't going to be
themselves.
Again, if you're spending a large chunk of money on something, either you research it first, and you're happy with the purchase, or you research it and decide you see some faults but you can live with them because the good features outweigh those faults, or you go in blindly and take your chances, in which case you have
nobody to blame but yourself if the product doesn't meet your needs. Trying to get someone to change the game for you (or retaliating against the manufacturer, like in the example above), after the fact, is
not cool, especially when the thing you're trying to change is part of what specifically attracted other buyers to the item.
And FWIW, yes, there are cases where I would absolutely say (and have said), "well, there's 19 things about this product that I love, but there's 1 that I really hate, and because of that I'm not buying it and I'll go buy my second choice instead and make do with that".
In the case of the iPhone, the way that the App Store and the ecosystem work are pretty damn clear, and have been for a long time. If you research the iPhone before buying, and don't mind (or actively like) the way the App Store works, great. If you don't like the way the App Store works, the dealer you're at almost certainly has a bunch of Android phones to look at (unless you're actually standing in an Apple Store). Get the one that you want. If you buy an iPhone simply because you like the color, or because you like the camera, or because you like the song that was playing in the commercial, and you didn't pay attention to any of the other details... the responsibility for that is on you - you've accepted all of them by default.
I don't accept the argument of "well, but someone bought it for other attributes and didn't pay attention to the ecosystem and now you want them to spend lots of money to untangle from that and move to Android?" I'm not the one that made that poor choice for them, they did that themselves. If I'm driving down a road and make a wrong turn and drive another ten miles in the wrong direction, when I figure it out, should I (a) turn around and head back in the right direction, or (b) lobby the government to uproot and move my destination to be in front of the direction I'm going (causing trouble for all the other people thus displaced)? Driving further in the wrong direction doesn't help things, or make the case for choice (b) any stronger.
Frankly, if folks who have iPhones who really want sideloading started a massive letter writing campaign to Apple, saying, "we want sideloading!", encouraging and cajoling Apple to change, and taking their money elsewhere if Apple doesn't, I'd be totally fine with that. I wouldn't help, of course, because I don't support their position. But when they start pressuring governments to make the behavior they don't like illegal, I have a problem with that. And I strongly suspect that, outside of tech forums like this, most of the pressure on lawmakers is coming from lobbyists for big software companies (who want a free slice of that market that Apple created), not from your typical iPhone user.