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My girlfriend, a hotel room, and a 30 year old
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And there's exactly how much evidence in the OP to support this? Besides, our lives aren't ruled entirely by biology...
I beg to differ on that. I think we're driven by biology, and try our hardest to steer over the sandy patches of road, with mixed success over our lifetime.
In support of this are: Boners, birth control and abusive relationships. Things we do to avoid the results of our biological drive, and the byproducts of logical beings behaving illogically.
I beg to differ on that. I think we're driven by biology, and try our hardest to steer over the sandy patches of road, with mixed success over our lifetime.
In support of this are: Boners, birth control and abusive relationships. Things we do to avoid the results of our biological drive, and the byproducts of logical beings behaving illogically.
Yes, but we can rise above (sorry) the "A stiff pecker knows no conscience" line of thinking.
Can we not?
It's been a mixed bag on my end.
Personally, I'm sitting out of the game until question-marks.
I believe Nature, and circumstance, have removed me from the game, barring a "miracle".
I do know what you mean about a mixed "bag" though.
And there's exactly how much evidence in the OP to support this? Besides, our lives aren't ruled entirely by biology...
Much of the potential scenario I provided to justify the young ladies behaviour was pure speculation; partially, just to be funny. But, the content within my post is based on scientific evidence.
This is supported via all the research coming from evolutionary psychology.
Below is a good research article that overviews much of the information related to my post and summarizes much of the research about mate selection produced via evolutionary psychology.
http://www.unm.edu/~gfmiller/new_papers/sefcek miller 2006 matechoice.pdf
All cognitive functions are evolved psychological mechanisms (EPM) orientated to potentiating survival and reproduction. Reproduction can be direct by having offspring (classical fitness) or indirect by aiding in the reproductive success of others (inclusive fitness); usually, this includes the offspring of kin (kin selection).
Variance in an individual's expression of each EPM in conjunction with the unique blending of the manifestation of those EPMs in the individual generates an individual's personality.
Mental illness is the occurrence of the function of one or more of those EPMs being overly expressed in an individual. Whether or not any incident of mental illness impedes on the evolutionary success of an individual is dependent on various socio-cultural factors that surround the individual.
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I registered just to make a point because I felt terribly sick as I read onto your post.
How can you be certain that she did not cheat on you? Please read the [Sperm Wars].
The scenario you just described perfectly matched the story presented in the book:
1. A guy coming from out-of-town and invites a woman to hotel room.
2. woman goes even though her logic mind tells her nothing will happen (just a casual friend chat).
3. Once the woman is in the room, the guy sweepers her off her feet and bangs her; woman loses her logical mind and sleeps with the man.
4. After sex, woman regains her composure and the guilt kicks in
This is the perfect cuckold scenario. You are a good husband material but this "out-of-town" guy comes in and inseminate your girlfriend. Even if your girlfriend's logical mind says she shouldn't do it, her emotional mind will give up but feels terrible wrong after sex.
Maybe your girlfriend didn't want to sleep with him before but once the GUY becomes OUT-OF-TOWN, he becomes extra attractive.
Maybe you can also recall your girlfriend's period during this incidence. I don't remember the details but she will most likely to cheat when the chance of getting pregnant is high. This is pure biological.
My friend, I don't want to be cynical but I do hope she did not cheat on you.
Good luck!
How can you be certain that she did not cheat on you? Please read the [Sperm Wars].
The scenario you just described perfectly matched the story presented in the book:
1. A guy coming from out-of-town and invites a woman to hotel room.
2. woman goes even though her logic mind tells her nothing will happen (just a casual friend chat).
3. Once the woman is in the room, the guy sweepers her off her feet and bangs her; woman loses her logical mind and sleeps with the man.
4. After sex, woman regains her composure and the guilt kicks in
This is the perfect cuckold scenario. You are a good husband material but this "out-of-town" guy comes in and inseminate your girlfriend. Even if your girlfriend's logical mind says she shouldn't do it, her emotional mind will give up but feels terrible wrong after sex.
Maybe your girlfriend didn't want to sleep with him before but once the GUY becomes OUT-OF-TOWN, he becomes extra attractive.
Maybe you can also recall your girlfriend's period during this incidence. I don't remember the details but she will most likely to cheat when the chance of getting pregnant is high. This is pure biological.
My friend, I don't want to be cynical but I do hope she did not cheat on you.
Good luck!
Good call! Sperm Wars is completely entrenched into evolutionary psychology.
Paternity certainty is inherently related to the threat of cuckoldry. I opted not to go into details concerning cuckoldry given the OPs potential emotional state but it is valid.
Cuckoldry becomes more likely when the other guy meets the requirements of short term female mate selection. I think the article I provided in a previous post provides details about female short term mate selection strategies.
The section titled "Genetic Benefits" under the heading "WOMEN’S MATING PREFERENCES" defines that the qualities of males that are more likely to cause a woman to partake in short term mating behaviour or cuckoldry. http://www.unm.edu/~gfmiller/new_papers/sefcek miller 2006 matechoice.pdf
True, women are more likely to partake in short term mating strategies and/or cuckoldry when they are ovulating.
Also, men deposit more sperm when they perceive that competition for the female's reproductivity exist with another male.
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Would you?
Reality shines a very cold light.
I would. The truth may sting but i'd still want to know it regardless or more accurately, my instincts would seek it out.
He is unlike to discover the actual truth here.
There is only one source for that info. (Or two.
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Who the ****** cares about the truth?? You already know what happened!!!
Unless she gets pregnant, it doesn't matter if she got inseminated or not.
Under the circumstances, it counts as if she did complete a sexual intercourse - regardless of what happened behind the locked door. There is not even a need to speculate in whether or not she got sexual satisfaction from that other guy, or if he got it from her, for that matter. In other words, it's meaningless to give her the "benefit of the doubt", as the doubt doesn't benefit anyone in such a case. After all, this is not a trial. This is about laws of nature in human relations. When you're in for a penny, you're in for a pound, and she crossed the line when staying in the hotel room. She therefore had nothing to lose by taking the full step and get the pleasures involved in mating activities.
Since facts can't be proven or testified in either direction by witness or otherwise (I can't stress it enough that this is not a trial), the girl obviously had sex with that 30-year-old. Even if she didn't, she still did. Adultery in the heart, remember. But hey - I'm not going to throw rocks at anyone in this. If it wasn't for such drifts, maybe none of us would even be here.
Oh, and if I were that girl, I would much rather mate with a hockey-loving alpha-male, than a person who behaves like an underdog.
Unless she gets pregnant, it doesn't matter if she got inseminated or not.
Under the circumstances, it counts as if she did complete a sexual intercourse - regardless of what happened behind the locked door. There is not even a need to speculate in whether or not she got sexual satisfaction from that other guy, or if he got it from her, for that matter. In other words, it's meaningless to give her the "benefit of the doubt", as the doubt doesn't benefit anyone in such a case. After all, this is not a trial. This is about laws of nature in human relations. When you're in for a penny, you're in for a pound, and she crossed the line when staying in the hotel room. She therefore had nothing to lose by taking the full step and get the pleasures involved in mating activities.
Since facts can't be proven or testified in either direction by witness or otherwise (I can't stress it enough that this is not a trial), the girl obviously had sex with that 30-year-old. Even if she didn't, she still did. Adultery in the heart, remember. But hey - I'm not going to throw rocks at anyone in this. If it wasn't for such drifts, maybe none of us would even be here.
Oh, and if I were that girl, I would much rather mate with a hockey-loving alpha-male, than a person who behaves like an underdog.
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Schrodinger? Is that you?
I'm going to have to agree with almost everything that you said here.
Exactly! I do not have the time or energy to waste worrying about my BF sleeping around. It's just not that important. By all means, have at it, just be careful and make sure to give me the juicy details later, or if the other guy is up for it, bring him home and we'll make a sandwich.
There is no room in my life for jealousy or drama in a relationship with regard to that stuff. People get bored with the same thing all the time. It doesn't mean you don't love your partner.
that aught to keep a person 100% out of any relationship ever.
is it adultery if you aren't married?
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Twelve seconds ago my years-long perception on sexual orientation just did a complete 180. I used to think that people didn't choose their sexual preference - but were "wired" with a strong predisposition for a particular gender.
That picture... now makes me question everything.
Who's up for a sandwich?
That picture... now makes me question everything.
Who's up for a sandwich?
And I only ask that in the future, if things work out, or don't, you update this thread, so we'll know what went down.
On the plus side, at least you found out that her female supports are the right kind, which is very important.
@op
I trust my girlfriend completely and she trusts me.
However If I found out she was in a hotel room late at night with an older man she previously worked with I would go mental and get rid of her in a split second.
The fact you let her do it baffles me even further.
I think she shagged him at the christmas party and went back for round 2.
Get rid asap, your being played sunshine.
I trust my girlfriend completely and she trusts me.
However If I found out she was in a hotel room late at night with an older man she previously worked with I would go mental and get rid of her in a split second.
The fact you let her do it baffles me even further.
I think she shagged him at the christmas party and went back for round 2.
Get rid asap, your being played sunshine.
