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Which option do you consider as your sexual orientation?

  • GLBTQ (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning)

    Votes: 82 18.4%
  • Straight

    Votes: 357 80.0%
  • Not Sure/Undecided

    Votes: 7 1.6%

  • Total voters
    446
xodonniedarko I think your post deserves an honest answer, and that's how I'm going to write my response to you. I'm not trying to be argumentative, standoffish, or anything else; I'm just trying to answer some questions that you raised yourself in the hopes that you will take them to heart. :)

The sexualy reproductive parts and the hormones were really designed for opposite sexes.
They were also designed for waste removal and can be used in any way you imagine them to be. There are no "rules" for the usage of your body; one might use a thumb to hitchhike or to press a space bar.

Many species (the bonobo for example) engage in various sexual activity ranging from male-male to female-female.
I'm not totally sure what really makes people gay because... I am not gay.
No one really knows. There are many studies that have been done and are currently being done to find this out, but with each completed study a dozen new questions arise.

The current consensus is that genetics makes a huge difference (more than 50%) but beyond that, it's really anyone's guess. Conditions of the womb might be an effect, and there is potential that a mother's hormone stability might also play a part. Again though, it's largely conjecture.

I'm not sure if it's a hormone imbalance (because really, that honestly can make you believe you're gay)
Hormones regulate your levels of metabolism, activity, etc, but they do not control whom you are attracted to. No matter what time of day it is, what I've eaten, done, listened to, etc, I don't find women sexually attractive.

Sexuality is not something that can be controlled by a switch.
or if it's something you're born with (I don't know if I really believe that)
Like I indicated before, that's currently the largest component of the explanation (add the conditions of the womb in there, and you're pretty much a fruit by the time the doctor slaps you! ;) :p).

I don't know if there's anything more I can explain here, but if you think of a question, feel free to ask it; there's no sense in having you feel shunned when you're just posting about your personal thoughts.
or it's just something that happens.
Yeah, that's a good summary. The only thing is, we don't know what exactly causes it yet. Until then (and even when we do) we just need to move past it.
Kind of like I'm extremely in love with the BMW 3 series while my mom tells me to like Mercedes better. I can't help that I'm in love with BMW!
That's hardly the same thing at all. We all have tech/car lust; that's just consumerism at its worst.

Loving a human being is entirely different. It's something no one can explain and yet everyone understands. It is the eternal mystery, the eternal truth.
That's just what I love!
You don't "love" it in the sense you would a person. You like it like a product that can be replaced, repaired, etc.
Oh, and if you're gay, that is REALLY okay with me. I have gay friends! :) All is good in the neighborhood.

I'm glad you've decided to judge individuals rather than stereotypes.

However, all is not "good in the neighborhood" if you make false comparisons and assumptions. Please take the time to consider what I've written to you. :)
 
They're both gay. :)
Only on Wednesdays though. Monday and Tuesday the designated gay cars are Hondas, and from Thursday through the weekend Jeeps are the gayest thing you can drive.

Range Rovers are never gay, unlike Hummers which are gay for two hours every morning just before lunch.
 
Only on Wednesdays though. Monday and Tuesday the designated gay cars are Hondas, and from Thursday through the weekend Jeeps are the gayest thing you can drive.

Range Rovers are never gay, unlike Hummers which are gay for two hours every morning just before lunch.

Don't forget the Toyota Prius- GAY, GAY, GAY!!!!!!!!:D
 
Don't forget the Toyota Prius- GAY, GAY, GAY!!!!!!!!:D

Only on Wednesdays though. Monday and Tuesday the designated gay cars are Hondas, and from Thursday through the weekend Jeeps are the gayest thing you can drive.

Range Rovers are never gay, unlike Hummers which are gay for two hours every morning just before lunch.

Is a Mercedes straight and a BMW 3-series gay, or is it the other way around?

And if you're a lady, nothing is gayer than a subaru.
 
I'm straight.

I never had any kind of 'moral' problem, but after hanging around with more gay people I have gotten over what problem I had seeing gay guys kissing. I dunno why, it just used to weird me out. I currently have no gay friends (that I know of, all though there are some possibilities), but thats not a choice, just happenstance. Unfortunately I think being in an all-boys school makes people somehow more worried to come out.
 
I'm straight.

I never had any kind of 'moral' problem, but after hanging around with more gay people I have gotten over what problem I had seeing gay guys kissing. I dunno why, it just used to weird me out. I currently have no gay friends (that I know of, all though there are some possibilities), but thats not a choice, just happenstance. Unfortunately I think being in an all-boys school makes people somehow more worried to come out.

If I were in an all boys school I'd be terrified to come too. That is a really scary situation to be in.
 
I would expect it to be, for all involved :D

Oh quit. ;) I guess it would just depend though. The vast majority of my friends are straight males, so maybe it wouldn't be so bad. I don't know though, at that age people are so worried about how they're perceived. It would be really scary to even think about coming out.
 
I would expect it to be, for all involved :D

Fortunately our school is predominantly moderate to liberal and pretty much non-religious (something I believe is not commonplace or even existent through much of America, correct me if I'm wrong), so it hasn't been, AFAIK, a big deal when the one or two guys who have come out have done so. The news spreads through the school in about a day with "Did you know --- came out?", and then is pretty much forgotten the next day.
 
Uh-oh, this could end up being another "Gayway Thread" disaster. To the OP, there was a thread such as this that existed a few years ago. It got out of control and was shut down, resulting in a lot of hurt feelings and many members leaving. Not saying that has to be the case here, but just be careful.

Listen to Lee. He is wise.

BTW: I am straight and have been hit on by 2 gay guys before. I wasn't offended, actually flattered... but I like girls. Asian girls. But that's another story.
 
I agree to a certain extent. I believe a large portion of it is right along those lines, but I think there's something psychologically deeper to it as well.

The gay population is nowhere near as vast as the 10% people seem to think is real. We'd be lucky if it's 2% or 3% - that's just realistic. Out of that small population of the world, the chances of finding someone you can connect with on an emotional level and developing a lasting relationship with are incredibly slim. Because of this, I think gay people (more specifically the men) resort to just accepting life for what they can get, and having sex. They may not get the emotional fulfillment, but they get sexual satisfaction and the brief feeling of being special.

You can't even prove that. I'm a homosexual 14 year old, and I'm not attracted to females at all. There is NO attraction. But males, there is a lot of attraction. It's my biggest pet peeve when people just assume that because a younger person self identifies as gay it makes them wrong because of their age. I don't want to just fit in, you make it sound like people like me WANT to be gay. What a STUPID idea! Get ridiculed and hurt for it, get disowned and risk getting killed!

I would rather be straight! I could BE myself! But I'm NOT and nothing will change that because it is the way it is! And I know many gay people my age that wouldn't agree with you.

If I read your post out of it's intentions then I'm sorry, but whether or not it relates to what you were stating, I stand by what I said.
 
You can't even prove that. I'm a homosexual 14 year old, and I'm not attracted to females at all. There is NO attraction. But males, there is a lot of attraction. It's my biggest pet peeve when people just assume that because a younger person self identifies as gay it makes them wrong because of their age. I don't want to just fit in, you make it sound like people like me WANT to be gay. What a STUPID idea! Get ridiculed and hurt for it, get disowned and risk getting killed!

I would rather be straight! I could BE myself! But I'm NOT and nothing will change that because it is the way it is! And I know many gay people my age that would agree with you.

If I read your post out of it's intentions then I'm sorry, but whether or not it relates to what you were stating, I stand by what I said.

Yeah, it can be tough, especially at your age. Hang on my friend, it will get easier, believe me. Remember that in about four years, you'll be in college. Life will be much easier for you there.
 
Yeah, it can be tough, especially at your age. Hang on my friend, it will get easier, believe me. Remember that in about four years, you'll be in college. Life will be much easier for you there.

Thank you so much. I needed that, life's not going too great right now. [For this and other reasons.]
 
You can't even prove that. I'm a homosexual 14 year old, and I'm not attracted to females at all. There is NO attraction. But males, there is a lot of attraction. It's my biggest pet peeve when people just assume that because a younger person self identifies as gay it makes them wrong because of their age. I don't want to just fit in, you make it sound like people like me WANT to be gay. What a STUPID idea! Get ridiculed and hurt for it, get disowned and risk getting killed!

I would rather be straight! I could BE myself! But I'm NOT and nothing will change that because it is the way it is! And I know many gay people my age that wouldn't agree with you.

If I read your post out of it's intentions then I'm sorry, but whether or not it relates to what you were stating, I stand by what I said.

Wow. You really read what I said out of context. lol What I was explaining was one possible explanation as to why the stereotype of the homosexual community is promiscuity. I am a 21 (almost 22) year old gay male. I am sexually attracted to men and not women. That is not to say women are not attractive to me, but I never look at one and fantasize her without a top and so forth. The physical attraction is there, but not the sexual attraction. And deep down, any honest straight male will admit, that even if to a lesser degree, he has occasionally looked at another man and thought of him as handsome. We all do it. It's natural. But your sexuality is determined by your sexual attractions. Enough said.

I feel your paid though. I was your age when I realized who I was. I was told many things, one of which being that I couldn't possibly have any idea I was gay simply because I happened to be a young teenager. Just take it in stride and stand up for yourself. It'll pass and people will eventually come to accept that it isn't a phase. They may not like it, but it's really hard to tell someone they've simply been going through a "phase" for a decade. Be strong.
 
I am straight. I like hanging out and relaxing with other guys but it's a completely different feeling from sexual attraction around women.

I live in a very gay-friendly city with a large gay population (Sydney, Australia). In my team at work there are 3 people who are openly gay (2 male, 1 female) and there's no discrimination that I've ever seen.

I don't have any hostile feelings towards gay people and I think people that do are probably either deeply religious or just busybodies who aren't happy with their own lives and so try to control other people's. That said I want to be careful not to lump all religious people together either, because there are 2 born-again Christians at my job who are perfectly friendly with the gay people, there's no icy atmosphere or anything.
 
LMAO.


The whole BMW/Mercedes thing was a jokkeee guyyysss.
Although I dunno, my mom has a Benz and while I'm sure their interior parts are probably higher quality than BMW, is till like the 3 series better...


haha hm.
anyways.
thank you Calboy.

But I wasn't making false assumptions or comparisons.
Well, I wasn't trying to.
 
anyways.
thank you Calboy.

But I wasn't making false assumptions or comparisons.
Well, I wasn't trying to.

I wasn't sure what you were joking about and what you weren't so I figured a thorough approach would be better.

I hope you can take some of what I wrote to you to heart.

GradientMac, I know how you feel. Take solace in the fact that things will get better and that you're not the only one going through this.

Things will get better, just remind yourself of that when you're feeling down. In the meantime, just be a regular teenager and come out when you're ready (be it at 18 or 21 or whenever). I think you'll find that when you do, most people will react in a generally positive way. Only a handful of people will really be terrible about it.
 
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