hello. My apologies, but I am taking offense to these very much gender stereotypical comments you are making. Are you sure she wasn’t trying to offend you on purpose because she knows this forum doesn’t have enough threads?
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hello. My apologies, but I am taking offense to these very much gender stereotypical comments you are making. Are you sure she wasn’t trying to offend you on purpose because she knows this forum doesn’t have enough threads?
Dude so much of what you said hits home. I feel like she just wants to control my mind and every time I try to establish what I want or I'm leaving she just gets angry and guilts me for asking and wanting normal things.
I feel like she dropped her ex, turned him into nothing- dust you could say.
And now she's trying to mess with my mind.
That's why I'm keeping my options open and talking to other girls. It's the only way to stay sane.
I ended up dumping her but she got enraged like I’ve never seen her so angry saying all these horrible things so I took her back.
And now she’s being nice to me and everything’s fine between us. For now lol
And now she’s being nice to me and everything’s fine between us. For now lol
Ok now I can't tell if you're being serious or just trolling. I'm predicting a future Dateline episode about the outcome of your relationship.
No, I suspect that there will be no clear "outcome" to this "relationship".
Instead, this relationship will run and run, to full houses and captive online audiences, much like Agatha Christie's play, The Mousetrap, which is still playing on the West End nightly, having first opened its doors to the public in 1952.
Since getting "enraged" over a decision you made for good reason is a recipe for a healthy relationship...I'm sure this one will last a long time.
I'm sure, though, that hieveryone can just cruise around in his E-class and pick up someone else as a replacement by complementing a visible part of her anatomy.
To me many boys today need to realize that the Marriage Contract is titled so far the women’s favor you by State have decided you are not a Dad in a divorce and the term is now known as ‘Uncle Dad’ if you are lucky and that is very rare!
Thanks for the info. I was referring to an earlier comment from him where he mentioned LA I thought.
I think that was on the context of an intended - or possible intended - move to LA, prompted, partly, by the question whether it would cost him less money to find and "keep" a "hot" woman in LA.
I wonder whether the OP applies the same superficial and utterly vapid values to his "Wall Street Trading Career" - which does raise questions about his judgment - as he does when writing about, fighting with, falling out with, or actively/ardently pursuing, "hot" women, or the acquisition of material objects.
You'll probably never know why and she doesn't owe you an explanation. The easiest explanation is she wasn't that in to you. Are you going to complain to the internet and create a meme or move one like the adults in the world?
Actually, I suspect that what really bothers the OP is that someone has ghosted him; from what I can see, the more usual story, in his mind, is that he should be the individual who gets to ghost someone else.
I'm gonna go out on a limb and assume he met this girl via a dating app. There's a good PJW video that came out about this topic, I think it was titled "Chads". As men we've grown complacent and tend to date down by settling on 5's and 6's, or 8's and 9's that are psychotic bc we're too lazy or weak willed to go out and talk to women in public. I've recently been breaking out of this habit myself.
We met through my ex. She’s friends with her. My ex has been on my side though when we argue, which surprises me lol
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We recently had a big argument for like 12 hours and countless texts back and forth so we broke up at around 10AM but then got back together at 6PM same day and now everything’s fine lol
I should also mention, me and my ex have become really close lately too. We went out and had a great time. I told the girl I'm dating now and she knew about it but didn't mind. We are just friends.
But...who knows the future...
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Right from what I understand the marriage laws are not very kind to the wealthier partner in the marriage.
For example, if a woman works hard and becomes rich and marries a guy with average means and they divorce it is possible she might lose a lot of her wealth.
So if someone has assets it is probably a good idea to be careful these days.
But...who knows the future...
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Right from what I understand the marriage laws are not very kind to the wealthier partner in the marriage.
For example, if a woman works hard and becomes rich and marries a guy with average means and they divorce it is possible she might lose a lot of her wealth.
So if someone has assets it is probably a good idea to be careful these days.
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12 hour fight? I would've just went for a walk before I fought for half a day. I can sleep for more than half a day no problem... I can't stand the on and off thing, if you're gonna break up with me two times then that's the only two times you will.
The drama seems more compelling than the actual relationship.
I didn't read the whole thread but my advice is this:
- this stuff shouldn't be hard. if you feel like you're making unreasonable compromises and this thing is messing with your head or it is too difficult - move on. If things are right, they feel right and this sort of BS is not a thing.
- try not to be too bummed with it, there are plenty of hot looking (and not hot looking, for that matter) guys/girls who are basically sociopaths or otherwise damaged human beings. you gave it a try, you learned it's messing with your head... get out. Great looks. Ugly personality...
- if someone is making you feel bad "messing with your head" they are not worth it
- when you find "the one" you will know it. it won't be difficult.
I went through several "difficult" relationships (even bought a house with one) before finding my current partner. I thought frequent painful compromise was part of the deal. It's simply not. We just "click". 2 year anniversary today actually (living together for 18 months), and we've had only a couple of very minor arguments.
If things are that difficult and it is messing with your head, it's NOT WORTH IT. It won't get easier, you'll just prolong the inevitable. Some people may make that sort of arrangement work, for a while. As above i even bought a house with one. But it really, seriously isn't that hard if things are right. Any close relationship you are in should make you happy, the vast majority of the time. If it isn't.... there's something seriously wrong.
Use this as a filter to get out now before you get too attached or have kids/other commitments, etc.
You can't make something work that is this difficult this early on. No matter how much you may think you want it at the moment, it just isn't worth your time. Don't care how hot she looks or how good any sex is.
Life is short, move on. All you're doing is wasting time on something that won't work, while the real person you're supposed to be with is somewhere out there.
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So let me get this straight... she started saying horrible things to you, so you took her back?
Sorry to say, but this will not last. Everything is not fine. You need to rip the bandage off. Right now you are the victim in an abusive relationship from the sounds of it.
My ex was pretty much the same, i went through the exact same sort of stuff until i wised up.
Like i said... it doesn't have to be this way. You (and everybody else, assuming they're a decent human being) deserve better.
By taking her back you're just validating the behaviour. It will be hard. It will suck. But you need to get out.
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Thank you SO much. I cannot thank you enough for this advice.
I feel like you're helping me change my life for the better.
I feel so bad with this woman.
After our last argument I've developed terrible anxiety. I can't sleep. It's affected relationships with the people around me badly. I've just been arguing and mad at them too for no real reason.
I feel like I need more anti-anxiety medication from my doctor or something.
It's so easy to get stuck and just continue in an abusive relationship bc of the hope that it will get better and the fear of starting over.
I needed a voice out there to help me see what's really going on and help me know what to do about it.
Honestly man I appreciate this so much.
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