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Think she moved on, feel awful

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Hieveryone said:
I don’t have any good friends like that who I’ve known for 20 years except ONE. Literally one guy.

it’d be nice to have close friends like you do.

but I’m proud of my Rolodex. I’ve done a good job I feel. Many Useful contacts to navigate this world in terms of getting what I want and need.

I try to take care of everybody.

I always try to do favors for them; that way they’ll pickup the phone when you call and are more likely to help you out later

I’m pretty good at meeting new people but only when they have insight into what I do. The best is when I meet someone who already has heard about me. That makes it the easiest

I almost WANT to find a girl around my age bc they are so much easier to deal with and I do want to settle down one day and because they try so hard,I feel like I wouldn’t have to Put much effort. And they look amazing. They really know how to dress nice and make themselves look super pretty.

I’ve literally had 30 year olds ask ME on dates and when I said I was busy they would ask what day and just keep trying.

heck of a lot easier than what I’m dealing with now...lol
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Looks like you are slowly learning mate.
Accepting the fact that "the strong" will never be "your thing", you are thinking about moving on to older ladies who are obviously more pressured to snatch a guy while their looks are still good enough.
The problem with the older ladies is that they mostly do it for all the wrong reasons(being afraid of loneliness, looking for provider for her kids from previous relationships etc.) It is a vicious circle.
 
avz said:
Haha! Love it! I guess there is a good reason why people mostly only go for a coffee dates. And it has nothing to do with the love for coffee.
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I’m not worried about a few hundred bucks on dinner at a nice restaurant, nor are the girls I know interested in free food

But online might be different. All kinds of people lol
 
Hieveryone said:
I’m not worried about a few hundred bucks on dinner at a nice restaurant, nor are the girls I know interested in free food

But online might be different. All kinds of people lol
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Somehow I never doubted it for a second.

I hope you are not taking it too seriously. Sure it is rough out there for all of us. But it is much more rough for a males in a beehive.
 
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avz said:
Somehow I never doubted it for a second.

I hope you are not taking it too seriously. Sure it is rough out there for all of us. But it is much more rough for a males in a beehive.
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Males in a beehive? Not sure what that means
 
avz said:
Males in a beehive allowed to live only for one day or so. So we really have it easy.
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Do tell. Are there any photos that can actually kill you?
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Okay I think I get now. Thanks
 
avz said:
Males in a beehive allowed to live only for one day or so. So we really have it easy.
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Do tell. Are there any photos that can actually kill you?
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Personally I’ve been married 18 years and met my husband in person.
But pro tip: women don’t want to see photos of your junk, especially if they’ve never even met you.
 
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mollyc said:
Personally I’ve been married 18 years and met my husband in person.
But pro tip: women don’t want to see photos of your junk, especially if they’ve never even met you.
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Noted. Congratulations on 18 years together with your husband! This is definitely more impressive than a photos you are talking about.
 
kingtj said:
I will say that especially when I was younger, some of my dates were women who knew other friends of mine. That was always easier for me than trying to meet an absolute stranger. But I've also found the friends that enjoy "playing matchmaker" tended NOT to really find good matches for me, so much as trying to do other friends favors to keep them from being single. Those dates never really worked out as anything longer-term.
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One thing I've found-

I've always had a lot of female friends where there was no romantic component, or in many cases for me perhaps there was hope that it would happen but it never happened :) .

I've had several try to play "matchmaker" for me, and mostly unsucessfully. With that said, it can and does work-that's exactly how I met my now fiancée. I was introduced to her by a then coworker(who I still keep in touch with)-it took her 2 years, but it finally hit her that a high school friend of hers might be a good match for me.

Of course, the key in that was that she also just made the introduction then just stepped back and let us work it out and get to know each other. She only told us the bare basics about each other(just the general what we did for a living, etc, plus a few other pieces of information that she knew would catch our interest) and after getting permission from both of us just gave me a phone number. Things went from there-and obviously very well.

I wouldn't dismiss that completely, but some people are good at it and some aren't.
 
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mollyc said:
Personally I’ve been married 18 years and met my husband in person.
But pro tip: women don’t want to see photos of your junk, especially if they’ve never even met you.
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Agreed that this is idiotic behaviour but at least it helps to filter out the complete retards from the list of candidates way before you even meet them.
 
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ericwn said:
Agreed that this is idiotic behaviour but at least it helps to filter out the complete retards from the list of candidates way before you even meet them.
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You might be oversimplifying this. A much more bigger retards are the guys who are like: "How do I approach a woman so she does not know that I want sex from her." LOL
 
I really hope you don't go back to her again, the more times you go back the less seriously she will take you. You're already close with 3 breakups, but if you get into the cycle again you will never escape it. Especially if this is someone who is close with your friends.
 
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mollyc said:
After hearing horror stories of the photos that are sent to women, I’m not sure that’s the case.
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Especially photos that defy the laws of physics wth regard to proportion, clearly misunderstand the concept of composition at the most basic level, and have no clue about issues such as lighting.

mollyc said:
Personally I’ve been married 18 years and met my husband in person.
But pro tip: women don’t want to see photos of your junk, especially if they’ve never even met you.
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Agree completely.
 
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throAU said:
The only person you're letting down is yourself. While you're screwing around with this head case, you could be seeing somebody sane...
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I’m falling for her man. She...has her ways of keeping a man happy...if you know what I mean. Oh well 🤷‍♂️
 
She has you trapped in the cycle. You don't seem to realize the gravity of the situation if you are this nonchalant about it. This might not seem like a big deal right now, but when you are in your mid 40s and she is not hot anymore, you will regret wasting a good chunk of your dating years on her.
 
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I would not spend too much time and effort. If she likes you and is interested you will see her putting in a lot of effort. When women want to put in effort they never fail. Just see how much effort they put in during a divorce. If they don't put in equal effort from the beginning don't put in too much effort. When you are hungry to eat and like what you see tgeh you don't wait to eat nor need others to convince you to eat.
 
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