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Think she moved on, feel awful
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Until your next fight. You really don’t get it.
You have already discovered her personality. The cycle is in her. She will not change, and so the cycle will not break. You are falling into a battered wife syndrome.
She is playing mind games with you. She is giving you a false hope that things are okay when they are not. You will be here again with your 4th breakup soon.
This kind of fighting is not normal.
It’s been like 36 hours since your last fight. You are as crazy as she is.
at this point I’m finally in troll camp.
at this point I’m finally in troll camp.
As it happens, I've been in residence there already for some time.
Just take a look at some of the OP's previous, or earlier threads on similar and related matters for a flavour.
Yesterday evening, I noted a post (No 392) - most of which the OP has subsequently, or since, deleted in which, among other details, he tagged at least five members - namely those who have replied somewhat sympathetically to this thread - which suggests to me a desire for reactions and responses.
I have to agree with @mollyc and @Scepticalscribe we have tried to help you and give you advice, but it has all fallen on deaf ears. It's almost like we are in stasis.
I stand by my post #263 on page 11 ... This thread is complete drivel designed by the OP to increase his post count. Please do not feed this troll. If everyone stops posting, he will make a couple consecutive posts, then give up when no one responds.
Well look, if it happens again then we’ll see then?
why would I give up when things are going good?
@Scepticalscribe I tagged them bc they’re the most helpful
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I’m not naive but like I said things have changed. It’s much better now.
new couples need time to learn and adjust
Plus she thinks I’m crazier than her, so I think it’ll be fine from now on bc she knows how I am
You have to be optimistic folks. This can turn into something really good.
If we keep bailing on potentially good things we would be nowhere.
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She thinks I’m crazier lol. But whatever the case, who cares WHEN we fought as long as everything is good now?
Plus, she knows how to keep a man happy that’s all I’ll say
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Would it still be normal if she was an overweight 4 and did not know how to keep a man happy?
We all know that it is quite normal for a gorgeous girl to get away with "murder".
Here is your answer right there.
You??? Play The Game??? You??? Most likely getting played by the ppl you're attracted to.
Don't kid yourself. At the very least seeing things for what they truly are will render you as a somewhat strong individual.
P.S. When Ken Norton was asked about his fight with George Foreman, he just said: "He beat me up." No BS. A lot to learn from the truly strong men.
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That is exactly what i mean. She's a head case, and re-read what i said about her trying whatever sticks to get you back. Whether it is crying, being mean, doing sexual favours or whatever. All you've done is let her know she can continue this stuff and get away with it.
Whether or not she likes you or not, the question is : can you deal with this woman. She can be the hottest girl on the planet, but if she's a psycho then trust me - it isn't worth it. Looks fade, personalities are normally pretty set by someone's teens.
Also, i know plenty of girls who were smoking hot in their late teens/early 20s who are.... very much not today. Their personalities were always not great but they "made up for it" with their looks to get ahead. Now their looks aren't there any more... they're just unpleasant people who aren't "hot enough to get away with it" any more.
It's not. Re-read the last few days of posts next week when you break up again.
This. There will continue to be fights, because all you've done is prove to her that there are no consequences to her behaviour. You're a total pushover, she can win you back any number of ways, within 24-48 hours. Not even a week. She has you totally under control.
She'll no doubt continue with this stuff until you either dump her properly, or you guys get married and then she dumps you and takes half when you're no longer attractive for her due to the age gap or she gets bored toying with you because she has no respect for you being such a wallflower.
Let's just hope he never, ever, has children. With anyone. Now or in 10, 15, 20 years. So dumb.
I honestly have nothing to say. Wrote something but after reading almost all the thread, OP is not worth it.
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To @throAU and everyone else,
I’m better understanding what many of you are trying to say.
This is part of a toxic cycle, and it’s not worth it.
The “good” is just to keep me but it won’t be long before it reverts back to mental torture. Until I say I’m leaving, then magically things will become good again to keep me around.
What I’m saying is that we don’t know it’s part of the cycle bc it hasn’t gotten as bad as it was at it’s worst, again.
I’m saying maybe things have changed and gotten good.
Why be pessimistic? Let’s see what happens before rushing to judgment
I’m better understanding what many of you are trying to say.
This is part of a toxic cycle, and it’s not worth it.
The “good” is just to keep me but it won’t be long before it reverts back to mental torture. Until I say I’m leaving, then magically things will become good again to keep me around.
What I’m saying is that we don’t know it’s part of the cycle bc it hasn’t gotten as bad as it was at it’s worst, again.
I’m saying maybe things have changed and gotten good.
Why be pessimistic? Let’s see what happens before rushing to judgment
Right. This is what women do: "Come to their senses." I'm afraid that this is YOUR JOB, not their's.
Because the past.... *checks thread date* ... 2+ months haven't been enough?
The first 3 months of a healthy relationship are non-stop full-on if things are right (hell, i'm 2 years in this time around and they still are).
If you're splitting however many times on a regular basis already, it's not going to magically get better because you dumped her for 12 hours and then took her back because she hopped into bed with you.
I've dated crazy girls (3 of them, before i learned better - i seem to be a magnet for crazy/hot type, they approached me) before. That's not how it works. Once she's comfortable she's won you back, she will revert to crazy.
I wasted 2+ years, 3 times thinking things would get better or that this sort of BS was "normal" and always had to be part of a healthy relationship. It's not...
Well. Maybe a lot of people put up with it. But you shouldn't. It's not how things are supposed to be.
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y’all were right.
she and her ex started following each other in social media again.
And she has plans to see me.
what. A. Joke.
This morning is not so good. Not really arguing but not really peaceful either at all.
I went to my doctor btw and she switched me from my as needed anti anxiety pill to something I take daily.
she said it’ll help w the anxiety. But it’s not suiting me so I called and asked for something else.
Idk what I’m gonna do.Im so lost.
y’all are right. Every time it’s good it becomes bad again and all I want is for it to be good again.
I don’t think there’s anythjng I could do except take the proper medications to handle this or like everyone’s saying just move on.
I went to my doctor btw and she switched me from my as needed anti anxiety pill to something I take daily.
she said it’ll help w the anxiety. But it’s not suiting me so I called and asked for something else.
Idk what I’m gonna do.Im so lost.
y’all are right. Every time it’s good it becomes bad again and all I want is for it to be good again.
I don’t think there’s anythjng I could do except take the proper medications to handle this or like everyone’s saying just move on.
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