This reminds me of when I was young and id make up stories on neopets.
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Think she moved on, feel awful
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No, that "is not life", that is a selfish, caddish and disrespectful choice that you have made to treat somebody wth complete contempt and a total lack of respect.
And, "we've all been through it" is no defence for such poor behaviour and conduct.
You think I should’ve met her? Maybe you’re right. I mean she was willing to drive so little for me to lose
No it means you should stop acting like an ass.
Well, that, and his sort of strange disconnected replies. Clearly, @Scepticalscribe said nothing of the sort, but it's passed through a bizarre "delusion filter". It's not the kind of interpretation I'd expect from someone that's supposed to be a 20-something professional in the financial sector.
No, but now it has come up, I did think that, even if I didn't write it.
Thank you. Exactly. Well said.
I think the whole thing is a sham. No Wall Street financial guy, no crazy girlfriend, no other date, none of it is real. At this point this is so outlandish that he would have to be manic or undergoing some kind of nervous breakdown to actually act like this.
Not manic, just attention seeking, entitled and narcissistic.
I was referring to if the situation he describes it real. If he actually has this little control it could be. If it's fake then you're spot on. Sorry if there was a misunderstanidng
I don't think that the situation he describes is real outside of his head.
However, if it is - whatever about the high maintenance individual he claims to be besotted by - his treatment of the other lady is an absolute disgrace, lacking decency, dignity, courtesy or respect, and he needs to take a long hard look at himself and the values he holds, irrespective of whether he is playing this role in his head or in real life.
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ghosting is a real thing nowadays especially with online dating :/ people are too scared to just tell people theyre not interested. i agree with your point though of course
Even if it is real, we are only hearing one side of a very dysfunctional story; I'll wager that her story would be equally revealing.
If - for example,- he is on the medication that he claims, and, if his character in real life remotely resembles the monstrously self-absorbed and selfish creation we about read on these pages, he is at least as high maintenance, and moody, not to mention as demanding, and as needy and narcissistic as she is.
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Well she ended up staying at my place. It was fine. Not too great but nothing bad either. Pretty relaxed and an overall nice evening.
She’ll be out of town much of the holidays so not sure when I’ll get to see her again but hopefully it isn’t too much longer.
I’m still questioning the long term sustainability of this relationship. We’re pretty serious, but I don’t know if I want to spend everyday with this woman for the rest of my life, which is the ultimate question here.
Much to think about.
She’ll be out of town much of the holidays so not sure when I’ll get to see her again but hopefully it isn’t too much longer.
I’m still questioning the long term sustainability of this relationship. We’re pretty serious, but I don’t know if I want to spend everyday with this woman for the rest of my life, which is the ultimate question here.
Much to think about.
The reason why the above post is significant is because we live about an hour away now and I've been seeing her in her town. She drove all the way in the dark to come see my new place, so I feel like that's pretty serious.
She's still friends with her ex and talks to him seemingly a lot which is the only thing that really bothers me. But hey what do you do.
Her friends and family know all about me and her family seemingly likes me too, so that's good.
But if she cheats, she cheats.
She's still friends with her ex and talks to him seemingly a lot which is the only thing that really bothers me. But hey what do you do.
Her friends and family know all about me and her family seemingly likes me too, so that's good.
But if she cheats, she cheats.
Actually, you're leaving out something here. Does this woman want to spend every day for the rest of HER life with you???? Equally as important and "ultimate" question on her side, too, isn't it?
Sometimes there's no reason. Someone just wants to move on, so... they move on.
Best advice I've seen in here is for you to move on too -- forget about "answers", most relationships are distinct enough in their own ways that there may not be any real "answer" when something doesn't work out-- or else if you're still feeling too fragile, talk it over with a therapist to get to a point where you're ready to date someone else and leave what was where it is, in the past.
It's all part of being human. Own it: it's actually way better and healthier than not feeling anything! The pain does wear down eventually. Then try to find another person you feel comfortable enough with to work at developing a relationship. Meanwhile spend some time with people who are already "just friends" so you don't end up living in the past by hanging on to how you feel right now. Every day brings a new dawn and new options. Don't forget to check some of them out. Being around other people switches up your focus and keeps you from staring at what's in the rear view.
I sure didn't invent anything I just posted here. It all got shared to me over time... when some relationship or other that I was in at the time went south and I was pretty sure I was the only person in the world ever felt like I did. I guess feeling like that is just human too. I eventually got tired of it though, realized I'm not all that special and so needed to keep moving to keep from turning into a petrified tree or standing driftwood or something. If I had been unique in how I had felt that pain, then how come all those millions of country music songs about broken hearts appeal to hundreds of millions of star crossed lovers?!
Yes she’s brought it up on her own several times (marrying me)
and yes I think it’d be fun having a hot blond girl in her early 20s prancing around my condo but it’s a little more complicated than that lol
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I’m not on any medication that I’ve mentioned.
And yes I’ve been moody, needy, narcissistic, high maintenance, demanding, and as CRAZY as her at times too.
Recently, I’ve decided I’m going to act with a calm mind. And stop being that way. Because she has stopped arguing. Even when I’m ready to argue she refuses. Even when I’m upset and try to argue she just won’t say anything. So she’s really seeing the situation handling it amazingly. And now it’s my turn and I have been having more control over my thoughts and what i say as well.
Things are better since. Much better overall.
Honestly, a close family member of mine who knows what’s going on told me that we are basically like 2 kids who argue over immature things that are nothing of substance but do really like each other and want to be together. Another close family member told me that “You two were MADE for each other. This is the perfect match” or something very similar
Major credit to her for acting much better in comparison to when we first met; I’ve learned from her. I’ve decided that I must also be calm and level headed as well. No need to argue and get upset over basically nothing or paranoid thoughts.
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I agree very much with this.
Ghosting is real and something to be afraid of.
Most of us have all done it and have experienced it.
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I appreciate your idealistic view of the world but it’s not what you think. The real world outside of big words and high thought is mostly gutter- for lack of a better word. Real world experience is critical bc often times what you would think is the opposite.
For example, most people would think that men would like a decent woman to bring home, and then you open up Instagram and you see what kind of women get the most likes (hint: it’s not the kind that you would take home)
The Kardashians didn’t become world famous by being the kind of woman you probably consider ideal, and yet they are the envy of countless number of women and the desire of countless number of men.
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While things have changed a lot since my OP, you do make some good points.
Unfortunately, I think time is the best way to get over something.
I wish there was a quick fix though
Yep... time can seem to crawl... including at the dentist and when heartbroken, not just when waiting for the proverbial watched pot to boil.
How the hell have you "talked" about marriage after all this?
My current partner of 2 years and i have not discussed marriage yet.
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Holy crap did you just compare real life to instagram?
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If you think "likes" on instagram has any bearing on what people actually want, well.... i don't even know how to explain.
And who are you to make any claim that any girl on instagram is "not the kind you would take home" based on pictures anyway?
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I do feel like some, not all, but some of our arguments have stemmed from her friends being extremely jealous. At least 1 argument we had.
That’s how college girls are.
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She’s brought up marriage several times. We went to Zales and she even said which ring she wants lol. She also said how many children she wants and the kind of house she wants me to get her.
If she hasn’t talked about marriage in TWO YEARS your relationship will probably fail.
Bad sign dude.
That’s how college girls are.
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She’s brought up marriage several times. We went to Zales and she even said which ring she wants lol. She also said how many children she wants and the kind of house she wants me to get her.
If she hasn’t talked about marriage in TWO YEARS your relationship will probably fail.
Bad sign dude.
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