haven't read all the way down yet... so probably someone already responded to you... but I'm curious why using the lightning headphone is not an option for you? They work exactly the same. I sometimes grab the lightning ones for iohone from my drawer by accident.. and they work no differently.
Lightning headphones cannot be used with any other device. The selection of headphones with Lightning is considerably more limited. If someone wants to carry one pair of headphones to use on the iPhone, iPad and Mac or PC, or anything else, there are no adapters made for Lightning headphones to 3.5mm or even USB-C. Maybe Apple will remedy this with the introduction of the new iPad, but I sort of doubt it.
Also, there’s no way to use two Lightning headphones at the same time to share a movie on an iPad, or listen to audio books or music with another person. There literally is no such adapter.
The only way to solve these problems is to use Apples lightning adapter and plug in a standard pair of headphones. An adapter must be purchased to use Lightning connections while charging the iPad, a common situation on long haul air flights, or just an evening watching movies or playing video games, working with audio video apps, or other processor intensive activities.
And as far as I know, there’s no lightning adapter to allow two Lightning devices to share the port at the same time, like an external Microphone pre-amp, and midi interface, etc. leaving no place to plug the Lightning headphones either ...
I just got airpods for the wife and me. I never would have believed how awesome they are. For one, I always got so tired of having to untangle the cords. And more importantly, we have three little kids, who constantly yank the cords, pulling them out of our ears. And the wife loves not having to hold/carry the phone around the house while listening to her talk shows. She sets it in middle of room. So cool.
AirPods are great, but they aren’t perfect for everything, especially on the iPad. For starters they are lower quality than uncompressed audio over a wire. Maybe not important for casual listening, but essential for professional audio work, or full fidelity movie watching, and higher quality headphones which can make the distinction.
AirPods have no low latency option. This means they can’t be used for gaming, or audio recording.
AirPods can’t be paired to the same source so you and your wife can watch the same movie on the iPad together, or listen to an audio book, or music simultaneously.
AirPods can be paired to other BT devices, but because of the low latency issue, will not be able to even watch movies in audio sync because Apple relies on their own hardware to maintain sync.