Pc laptops are not the same.
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IMHO, you're right and you are wrong.
You're right in that there is no comparison in the PC or Google world to the ease of use and the capabilities you have if you stay in the Apple ecosystem. I'd prefer to stay in the Apple laptop ecosystem because as much as I love using macOS, iOS and macOS together are like...I believe the use of the word "wonderful" is appropriate.
That said, you're wrong in that I don't enjoy the laptop hardware that is currently acting as the middle man between me and macOS. So here I am, a Mac laptop user since 2001, trying to figure out how to keep macOS front and center to my portable workstation computing, but for the first time in my life, envious, lustful, and to be honest, resentful, of what is being produced in the PC world.
Buy minimum RAM and upgrade as needed? I used to have that with my MBP. A laptop that also allows you to have two SSDs that can be swapped out? Brings back bitter sweet memories of when I removed the slow HDD and SuperDrive from my MBP and replaced both with SSDs. Access to the best graphics cards because the laptop manufacturer doesn't have a beef with Nvidia? Been there, done that.
With the way Apple is trending with the T2 type chip and rumors of modules being their way forward with desktops, I feel I need to get what could very well be my last Mac now, and at the same time start transitioning out of the Apple ecosystem. That this is so difficult is a testament to how I loved Apple's laptops and especially to how great macOS has been for me.
They might as well call the next version of macOS "Brokeback Mountain" because "I wish I knew how to quit you..." seems to be a theme for many of us.
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