Tesla fanboys are worse than Apple fanboys when it comes to overlooking flaws and shortcomings.
Go to the Tesla subreddits... there are plenty of complaints. They don't overlook flaws, they deal with them because they see the benefits of the car to outweigh the current "flaws" and hope for future fixes through OTA updates. The lack of CarPlay integration isn't a deterrent to buying the safest & most fun cars in the world.
I had a Porsche Macan rental for a couple weeks once... I thought CarPlay wasn't a great experience and it seemed like the audio quality was actually worse than just regular Bluetooth audio. I think CarPlay would be better on Tesla's larger screen, but I wouldn't even use it. Apple nerfs some of the phone's functionality when CarPlay is in use.