Have my black one for 5 days now and I love everything about it.
Coming from a seven is my first “big” iPhone and I am one of those preferring small phones for a long time. Even the 7 was a big leap of faith but once I got it, not so much.
Same with the xr. I just adjusted my behavior (not by much) without really noticing.
Now I’m enjoying how much nicer reading and typing is.
I have big but not super big hands and often find myself using the xr one handed.
It’s similar to the 7 then: it mostly works but sometimes it is a little too big to handle.
But to me the important thing is: it does not show this behavior in any additional situation compared to the 7.
Screen, speed, cameras...all of them amazing!
To me a very, very good upgrade coming from the 7 (which with ios12 still was quite perfect also).
I admit I do love Animojis and they work super good (great if you have kids).
And Face ID alone is worth the upgrade, it’s like not having to have a passcode at all.
It will just unlock without me noticing it after a while.
Could be a little lighter but I look at it as finger strength training

I can hardly imagine anyone not being satisfied unless he receives a faulty device.
Might sound like a fanboy but indeed at least an xr-fanboy i have become.
Feels good.