We're on an apple fan site.
Unless I'm misunderstanding you, you last tried Linux in the early 2000s - a lot has happened in the past 20+ years, and Linux has improved its polish and ease of use. I remember needing to edit conf files, mess with wifi drivers and having a headache with Fedora about 8 to 10 years ago. I reinstalled Fedora earlier this year, those issues were all gone. I also tried a few other distros and settled in on Cachyos.
Second point, you picked one of the hardest distro to install and try out, so your experience is typical for anyone trying gentoo, especially if you're not a a seasoned Linux veteran.
There's several distros that marketed towards windows users, with their DE being very similar to the Windows UI,and the setup mostly automated.
At the end of the day, an operating system's sole job is to run applications, and if the applications you need are not available, then it doesn't make sense to use that OS. One size doesn't fit all, its clear you're not considering Linux which is fine. If you have something that you like, why mess with success